Mark, Ok, I'm maybe a little feisty tonight but...of one thing I can guarantee you:
I never make fun of anyone
I love wholeheartedly
I trust my friends
I'm honest, very much so, because I find that to be honest is to be kind, no, I don't hurt I use diplomacy, yes I hug a lot and yes, I try to think about the person, their attitude, their circumstances before responding and I take all of that into account....please don't misunderstand me...when I said we argue in here, I meant we argue knowing the personalities involved, how their day may be, their personal life...but most of all, we build here, we build relationships, caring ones, relationships that can be trusted....that's why it is fun....if I ever caused hurt in any of these forums I would shrivel into a tiny heap...but here I feel I can say when my heart is hurting and get an objective response, I can laugh at the silliest things and get laughter back or I can love my heart out and get so much love back, it hurts....
Words you know are our own choice, *we* decide how and whn to use them, what emphasis to put on them and when we make that choice we know the effect....mostly, I choose to be me, kind and caring but I will and can be angry at how day-to-day life affects me, thankfully having been around for a little while now, most know that I do care and when I hurt, it comes out, when I'm angry it comes out...because, that is me....WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get)...I just don't know, how to be any different...I've been on the end of gossip and couldn't retaliate andit hurt more than I can say...I've been on the end of words that charm you and that hurts your valuation of trust...so if I seem harsh I don't mean to be...I just find that weighing people up is part of caring and you adjust your words accordingly....so...unusually I will quote you at the end....
"RainbowGirl-Thank you, and as you will see, I am more or less the open forum kinda guy with visits to Spiritual as well. This kind of forum is not my cup of tea but I am glad it is here."
Why is it not your cup of tea? I add milk, sugar if required, the best teabags, a china cup and saucer, hugs and scones...did I forget the jam?