Childishly I married a man that thinks this way. He is so damn opinionated against bigger people. Quote - 'Oh why would anyone want to listen to what he/she is saying look at the size of them!!'
I called a halt to this behaviour in front of my son Dylan. He has to learn to be able to judge people for WHO and what they are, not how big they are or what nationality.
I sing publicly when possible and the same thing goes - how many fat female singers do you know???? There are a couple sure but they made it when they were thin, would they make it now with the weight.
Actually I like large people, 90% of them laugh more than most, happy, jolly types. Sure it could be an act to fit in, so people will want to be with them, but 9 out 10 times it is genuine.
They can be smart, win pulitzer prizes etc. But that is only if they get the job in the first place again looks come into play.
It is so unfair and so unjust, but some people are body size racist, just like people racist. They will never change. And unfortuneatly it is the big person that usually suffers by their hand, not getting that job, that role, that friendship etc.
I myself juggled my weight when leaving school/college and living in the real world. I ate the same but wasn't as busy physically so I didn't burn off the wait as I'd used to in school. It took a while to realise and when I did I changed my eating and exercise routines and I'm fine now.
It is also proven that genetically you can be predisposed to gaining weight, ie if your family is fat there is a good chance you will be predisposed to being that way yourself. But you don't have to allow that to happen.
My biological family are fat, I know it is in my genes, but I dont have to be lazy and eat too much either.
I have to watch myself. Always have. Most do.
But that still doesn't mean people have the right to judge us by appearance alone. Some large people have thyaroid problems and cannot help the way they are etc.
Like all of you I just wish people weren't so quick to judge a book by it's cover, but take you for your merits and being and personality those things are what matter....
There's my 6 cents worth..
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