Hmmmm... let's see..
Should there be some kind of degree or level system for how many times one gets in this fix??? (very effective for internet relationships!) Think of the dual purpose.. the organizational potential, as well as, turning something negative into something positive!! Instead of beating yourself up for falling into the same nonsense, you can use it for promotional material!! ex - "Hey!!!! has met someone else... now i'm a 3rd degree member!!!!
*Sorry... I know this is sick and possibly out of line.. but, this situation sometimes can really chap a person.. and sarcasm helps. LOL