I have never been a moderator and have no idea what it is like for them. So maybe my thoughts are off track. I have read posts here where people argue the point, is this acceptable? why? why not?
Most people, I believe, don't read the guidelines when they sign up at a site. I know I have been guilty of that before. If I broke the rules I would expect to be told what I had done wrong, preferably in the privacy of an email, and I would accept the moderators descision. As far as I can see, breaking the rules is breaking the rules, no matter why you did it.
It's really simple, if you don't like the rules, don't play the game.
(This is a general comment, it is not aimed at any one in particular)
I wish you every happiness and may you always have the best of the good things in life. a brand