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Poet deVine
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0 posted 2001-04-03 12:05 PM


Mizz Aggie recently went to the funeral of a  one of her best friends. It was a sad day as this was the last of her friends to pass away. After the funeral, her friend’s daughter told Mizz Aggie that her mother had always wanted to be a dancer, but thought her feet (size 9) were too big. The daughter said that her mother died always regretting that she never even tried to learn to dance.

Mizz Aggie got to thinking and realized that SHE did all the things in life that she wanted to do – but she is worried about YOU.

So today, Mizz Aggie wants to know:

Is there one regret you have in your life now? And is there one that you are determined NOT to have?


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1 posted 2001-04-03 12:10 PM


One regret I have in my life right now is not showing this one girl how I truly felt about her.  If I had the chance now, I'd really show her.......

~*Man, I think that was a little too gay*~  

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So long lives this, and this give life to thee." W.S.

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2 posted 2001-04-03 01:10 AM


Oh yeah, sure, Acire... being in love with a female is just the definition of gay.  
Well I have no regrets... all the events of my life have led me where I am today and I'm peachy with who I am.  Regrets are not something I like to have.

The sun was born, so it shall die. ~VNV Nation, "Further"

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3 posted 2001-04-03 10:49 AM


My only regret is that I did not finish college. But I have figured a way to get almost what I wanted. I've made arrangements that when I die my body will be donated to a medical school. I may not get a degree but I'll at least end up going to college till their finished with me.
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4 posted 2001-04-03 03:57 PM


Regrets I will save for the deathbed. It ain't over yet! And the one that I am determined NOT to have? Hmmmm....it would have to be hurting someone. I think I would regret that deeply. And? sadly, a hard one to avoid...too late, already, methinks.
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5 posted 2001-04-03 08:21 PM


I regret not going to college right out of high school..but then, as I believe in fate, I would never have had the two children I have - and there are NO regrets about that. If I could win a Nobel prize, I'd want to win it for raising those two wonderful young people...they are amazing!!

Future regrets? I know I'll have a lot - I'm not assertive enough to tell a guy I like him so there are quite a few missed opportunities there.....sigh. Oh well. Some day 'he'll' just KNOW and tell ME!!  

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6 posted 2001-04-04 02:50 PM


Hmmmm....

I have certainly made mistakes in my life.
I feel that those mistakes have been learning tools for me. They remind me
what NOT to do in the future.
Those mistakes are part of what I've been molded into.....
makes me who I am today.

So no, as of now I have no regrets.

The one regret that I DON'T want to have....
I don't want to be on my death bed wishing that I had spent more time with
family and friends, or to have been a better parent.

Thanks for the great question Aggie. This has opened my eyes and reminded me
be the best parent and family member that I can be.  

~Sheri

"The things that come to those that wait may be the things
left by those who got there first"



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7 posted 2001-04-04 04:17 PM


One thing I regret is something really horrible.......I'm not even sure if I should say it......as a horrible JOKE i decided to tell a net friend I was in a "coma". I played the whole thing out for a week. What I didnt know was that it was her b-day....I ruined it for her.....and I made her cry. Apparently she really cared for me. To this day I don't  forgive myself.
Later on she became my best friend, and she's bound to become my GF seeing as how my college will be 2hrs away from where she lives. I'm happy about that, but my actions were uncalled for.

Something in the future.....I do not want to defy love.


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8 posted 2001-04-04 10:38 PM


Surely I'm too young to have regrets?

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9 posted 2001-04-05 08:45 AM


Regrets? I've had a few. But then again, too few to mention. (Sorry, Frank, that just slipped out before I could stop it.)

More seriously, I guess it depends on your definition of regret. If you consider regret to be a "wish to change the past," it seems everyone agrees that is unwise (not to mention impossible). But the on-line definition of regret is "A sense of loss and longing for someone or something gone." And given that, I don't see how it's possible to live life without having some regrets.

Every decision we make is a fork in the road, one branch taken and one left forever behind. And no matter how much we find yet in front of us, no matter how much we believe our choices were correct for us at that time, there is so much more always left behind. Life is too short. We can never have it all. And I think the losses should be regretted - perhaps even treasured - as a part of us we never allowed to grow.

My personal regrets could fill a large book. I regret the loss of friendships, faded because I was busy "doing" and rarely "being." I regret the loss of relationships, forsaken because I was too young and foolish to extend forgiveness or too proud to ask for it. I regret the loss of growth, because there was always a "later" that seemed soon enough. Every loss has always been offset by gains - new friendships, new relationship, new and greater opportunities - but I don't think the gains can ever lessen the loss, nor should the losses ever be forgotten. Bill and Jan, childhood friends, Steve, a best friend, Dennis, Jim, and Angela, friendships long lost to time and distance. Sharon, Annette, Susan, Kristine, the Ashley that couldn't be, the children who grew up too fast and too far away, the mom rediscovered only to be lost. The books I could have written, the paintings I should have painted, the races never entered, the myriad interests and classes never pursued. So many, many losses.

Our decisions define our life, but it takes more than that to define our essence. And I think at least a small part of that has to be the "might have been's" that comprise our history, the intricate web of paths we could not or would not take. Life is too short and we can never have it all.

And maybe that, more than anything, is what I most regret.

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10 posted 2001-04-05 07:49 PM


You regret me in some way, Ron???  
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11 posted 2001-04-06 04:36 PM


Sharon, how could anyone regret you??? You da bom!

My thoughts go similar to Ron's... at least to how I regret much - perhaps not a week goes by in my life that there isn't something from it I don't regret... but - and especially in light of the definition Ron posted - Those regrets all lead to better things...

From the actions I regret, I've learned what choices I didn't want to make in the future.

Because of the loves I've lost or missed, I discovered how to cherish and try to hold on to the ones I gain.

From the friends I've upset or become estranged from, I learned to talk things through more clearly and be more tolerant.

For the education I've missed, I've found it's never to late to learn something new.

There are many things I regret, but I think that if you look at it the right way - having regrets are a good thing.

Peace,

C

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12 posted 2001-04-12 04:56 PM



I have many regrets, but...all of these regrets I can get over, there is only one regret that has haunted me and will always hurt me

~not showing this one man how I truly felt when he adored me and wanted me, and even though I adored him too, I pushed him away and I will never know or may not know for a long time what could have been.
I've pushed a lot of guys away, but this one, I will never forgive myself for! - he was basically my dream guy.  It's a common regret, I know, but there's more to the story than I am sharing, believe me I screwed up big time  
What makes it so haunting, is that I know I hurt him deeply, it probably, actually I know it changed his life too,
I would give ANYTHING to turn back time to regain that one moment that drastically changed my life



[This message has been edited by Melissa Honeybee (edited 04-12-2001).]

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13 posted 2001-04-13 07:36 PM


I have some regrets, but they do not consume me.

I regret:

Never having told my Dad, "I love you." Although he knew it.

Never having spoken to a beautiful girl who sat beside me on the bus to Boston in November, 1968. (I was really shy in those days. And for some reason, I've been thinking about her lately?)

Never getting to finish college.

Making kids I don't know about???

Trying so hard to give my boys everything I didn't have, and forgetting to give them some of the things I did, that make me who I am.

I do not regret:

A minute of the time with my sweet wife, Deanna. Going on 24 years now.  

At my age, if I wake up in the morning, I'm alive, and that's cause for celebration!!

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14 posted 2001-04-14 09:16 AM


I don't have any regrets... a gigantic bundle of disappointments perhaps, but no regrets. We all make good and bad choices, but if we think them through and we think they are honestly for the best, I don't think you should regret that. I'd like to live my life so that I have no regrets.

"Men judge generally more by the eye than by the hand, for everyone can see and few can feel."-Machiavelli

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15 posted 2001-04-17 02:26 AM


Oh sure.. the biggest regret I have is not cherishing the relationship between my brother and sister and me until it was too late.

--Marie

subconsciously, i think i can eat so much to make my stomach hurt, instead of my heart.

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16 posted 2005-01-18 09:18 PM


It's amazing when one wants to find something "funny" to cheer someone up.  Just know, you all have done a good job, this post is being resurrected to make Mummy Muys smile...and I'm sending it to her, forthwith!


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17 posted 2005-01-21 10:01 AM


Hehe, it's fun to read old posts, they always make me smile! As for my opinion on this subject way back then, it hasn't changed

I hope it makes her smile as well!

Oh, make me Thine forever
And should I fainting be
Lord, let me never ever
Outlive my love for Thee

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