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laryalee Member
since 2000-06-19
Posts 352Alberta, Canada |
(Disclaimer: I'm not claiming any expertise in this field, LOL) The 'Bite-Your-Tongue' Theory Which of the wisdoms should we be upholding - psychiatrists' warnings or grandmother's scolding? When is it better to openly vent, when should we swallow our pointed intent? We hobble through life - half in silence, half speaking, with self-imposed righteousness blatantly peeking. We ponder effects while debating the cause, count slowly to ten for a breathable pause. When turmoil erupts, we succumb to the dread: 'Did I behave right? Was it something I said?' Bewildered and bothered, the stress of deciding is often much worse than opinions we're hiding. If truth was a habit instead of a threat, the 'bite-your-tongue' theory we'd surely forget, except on occasions we know in our heart when pain could be caused by the words we impart. [This message has been edited by laryalee (edited 03-08-2001).] |
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2dalimit Member Elite
since 2000-02-08
Posts 2228Mississippi coast |
You pose a good point. I like it. Melton |
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Wesley the Blue Member
since 1999-09-02
Posts 426Forest Lake, MN, USA |
A very valid point. Why should we not say whats on our minds unless it will hurt someone. I liked it. Keith every day is a new day with which we can change the world |
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Krawdad Member Elite
since 2001-01-03
Posts 2597 |
decisions, decisions . . . another fear, another headache "I was angry with my friend: I told my wrath, my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe: I told it not, my wrath did grow." from A Poison Tree, Wm Blake [This message has been edited by Krawdad (edited 03-09-2001).] |
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jbaker Member
since 2001-02-16
Posts 74Australia |
Isn't it embarassing when you've said the wrong thing? A great subject to write about..and well written at that.Well done. JB Smile and the whole world smiles with you. Keep smiling! |
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ellie LeJeune Member Elite
since 2000-01-10
Posts 4156King of Prussia, PA USA |
Lovely poem...I had to take my foot out of my mouth to type this! LOL! The truth is always the best, with diplomacy, of course, and much love. A friend hears the song in my heart, and sings it to me when my memory fails. |
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Solstice Son Member
since 2000-09-19
Posts 469 |
ARRRRRGH!!! just when I had resolved my basic attitude towards openingmy mouth!! *LOL*..my mom and dad were fanatical about " THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK" *L* I was a quiet kid *LOL*  Sol ~Which way did They go? How many of Them were there? I MUST find Them!! I AM THEIR LEADER!!~ Author Unknown..well at least to me..:) |
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Dopey Dope
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Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
Quite interesting indeed. Nice one here.  I was born myself, raised myself, and will continue to be myself. The world will just have to adjust. I'm in love with my shadow I admire it daily |
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nakdthoughts Member Laureate
since 2000-10-29
Posts 19200Between the Lines |
this made me smile as I reread it..I am saving it..I think it was written wonderfully ~Wynter "The worst prison would be a closed heart". ...Pope John Paul II |
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Moon Dust
since 1999-06-11
Posts 2177Skelmersdale, UK |
Interesting Don't ever give in, if you do you've lost everything you've ever had and everything you hope to gain, but if you carry on your already winning. |
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laryalee Member
since 2000-06-19
Posts 352Alberta, Canada |
Melton - Thank you - I'm glad it makes a point, although I'm not sure if it's the correct one, hmm-mmm... Keith - Actually I clarified the last stanza after your comment, because I wanted to emphasize it more. I just wish we could speak openly and honestly....but we're expected to 'follow protocol', etc. ...what a pain! Thanks! Krawdad - I really like that quote - thanks so much for your response! Hi JB - I know, it's the pits. But wouldn't it be nice if we didn't have to worry about it?! Ellie, that's so cute! I can't imagine you ever having to do that - you're such an elegant lady! Sol, you're hilarious - "I was a quiet kid"....I know your parents' advice was wise....sure helps you get along in the world better! Thanks, DD! Hi Wynter - so glad you like it. I guess the main problem with this theory is that it only works if everyone subscribes to it, LOL! Moon Dust - Thanks! I appreciate your responses, thanks! Lary |
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Panne447 Member
since 2001-04-03
Posts 196S.A. TX |
Laryalee, This was a very nice read. Quite enjoyable and I think you wrote it very well. I was expecting a different ending tho so was a bit surprised by this one. Glad I stopped in - the title grab my by the throat and yanked me in here. Panne |
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Joyce Johnson
since 2001-03-10
Posts 9912Washington State |
Being the first daughter in the family after four older brothers, Mom, Dad and my big brothers thought everything I said was cute and worth repeating. Until I got to the stage where I thought every thing I said was cute and worth repeating. Then I learned it was better to be quiet sometimes. Joyce |
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Andrew Scott Member Elite
since 1999-06-24
Posts 2558Redlands,CA,USA |
Most excellent! Me? I'm a thinker with a long fuse... but look out when the spark reaches the barrel. Again, this was excellent... good topic, good read, perfect style! Thanks for sharing. |
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coyote Senior Member
since 2001-03-17
Posts 1077 |
This is a good one, Laryalee. The thoughts you present here, are ones I deal with daily, sometimes hourly. I think I should probably keep my mouth shut most of the time, and find myself apologizing, (as a true gentleman should), moreoften for something I merely "thought" I said to someone. I suppose in psychiatric circles this is known as "paranoia", but when one has known the horror and reality of nearly unbearable "pain", one tries to in turn, cause as little of the same as possible. Yet opinions are of themselves, creators of controversy, and being an opinionated person, I usually end up causing my fair share of it. I guess what I'm saying is you are not alone, it is I believe, one of the foremost attributes that define our "human-ness", which is the capacity to be compassionate for compassion's sake. Thanks for the read. "The only thing new in the world, is the history we don't know." |
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laryalee Member
since 2000-06-19
Posts 352Alberta, Canada |
Hi Panne! I've been so busy, so tied up with things - I had forgotten about this one....Nice to meet you, so glad you liked it! Joyce - I love your wise comments! You know you have the beginnings of a thought-provoking poem right there! Andrew - Thank you! I just wanted to stimulate thought, and am pleased when it works! Coyote - It does seem a bit sad, that we can't relax...I wonder if it all boils down to simple insecurity...but then arrogant people can be so obnoxious! Just life, I guess....thanks for dropping in! Lary |
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Trillium
since 2001-03-09
Posts 12098Idaho, USA |
This is so well written and treats a difficult subject with respect. I guess we've all had moments when we did speak our minds and later wished we hadn't. Betty Lou Hebert |
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coyote Senior Member
since 2001-03-17
Posts 1077 |
Lary, Thanks for the reply. Sorry I'm so arrogant & obnoxious. How's that for insecurity? "The only thing new in the world, is the history we don't know." |
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laryalee Member
since 2000-06-19
Posts 352Alberta, Canada |
Hi Betty Lou - Thanks! It's kind of nice to be able to just admit we're human, though! coyote - hee hee! Golly, maybe you could start counting your apologies, then gather them up, package them and sell them to those who really need them.... (Now what on earth brought that on?....Hey, it could work!) Lary [This message has been edited by laryalee (edited 04-03-2001).] |
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coyote Senior Member
since 2001-03-17
Posts 1077 |
Just sayin' ya gotta have a sense of humor about it or it'll really drive ya crazy! (or crazier) lol Thanks, for the idea. Is that a Catch-22? "The only thing new in the world, is the history we don't know." |
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Red_Feather Member
since 2001-01-19
Posts 131The Vagabond Sea |
This may be a little off the point, but the line "If truth were a habbit instead of a threat" really struck me. It brought to me the feeling of being honest (about perhaps more than an opinion) and simultaneously handing over a weapon. One's not half two it's two are halves of one EE Cummings |
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PhaerieChild Senior Member
since 1999-08-30
Posts 1787Aloha, Oregon |
I really like the way this was presented. I think maybe I should keep my mouth shut more often as well if I feel like I may hurt someone. I do shoot my mouth off alot. This is a stop-and-think-before-you-act message. Very well written. How can you save me? |
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Yu Lan Senior Member
since 2000-04-13
Posts 1462New Zealand |
I love this, it is so well written! Hey, do you mind if I print out a copy of this (with your name on it, of course,) 'coz my mum just read it and would like a copy.. Brilliant, laryalee.. brilliant. I certainly won't be forgetting this message in a hurry.. Luv, Lynne "He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened." Lao-tsu |
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Honeybee Member Ascendant
since 1999-12-26
Posts 5372Ontario, CANADA |
An excellent message showing us both sides of the issue, well written with sensitivity and respect in a classical style. You truly are a great poet! Into my library this goes~Take care, Melissa~ |
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