there are only two ways to go about doing something after a break up (as I assume this is through wording). First is that you can mope around and never move on. This option leads to depression and eventually can include drug use, criminal activities (stalking, harrassment, etc...), and even suicide. You will never be happy if someone is trapped in a situation they don't want just because you want them there. I've dwelled there and it made me the type of person that I really didn't like. Always watching them, always wondering what they are doing and if they aren't going around behind you. It wears you down to do that. The other option is to continue on with your life. If you continue on with life, then you will find something that makes you happy. Whether it be something you already do, or something you find out about later on, it makes no difference. The entire point is that you will be happy. I never claimed to have all the answers, just my opinion. I've made alot of bad decisions in my life that through some weird twist by God has made me a better person instead of one completely destroyed. He has taken me from the desert of lonliness to the oasis of friendship time and again. I am now the happiest I have ever been, and with some of the best people I've ever known. All because of God and my not wanting to sit around and think about things I can't change. You can't make someone else change their mind once it's already been made. You can gain their respect and admiration for being able to accept something and move on even when it tears you up inside. Something will always come up that will get you. That's the way life is. the only way you can get through life being happy is to take it and keep going. To put it in some younger terms, it's just emotional baggage. leave it with the desk clerk and let him deal with it. You don't have to take it with you.
Sorry for the length, but I'm just home on leave, I'm not going to be here long enough to send email replies or anything like that. I like being a friend, and though I do say things that get to be offensive, I never mean to be offensive, just honest. So I'll let this go and wish you all a merry christmas. and remember, no matter how bad it gets, it can always get much worse.
shine a light so bright that all can see
and you will find the joys that echo within me