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0 posted 12-13-1999 12:50 PM       View Profile for Michael   Email Michael   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to Submit your Poem to Passions  View IP for Michael


Why do they call me the "Absent Father"?
I never left, I'm still here, if alone.
I can't pretend that term doesn't bother
Me, when the sin is not mine to atone.
I don't hear them say, "Virtueless Mother".
They're too busy paying a cheating wife
For becoming pregnant by another,
And putting the screws to my life.

At five years old, to live with me he cried.
He still cries today, my God, he's now ten.
But I'm told he's still too young to decide.
He must be twelve years old, and even then...
That only allows his testimony
To go before a judges scrutiny.
With paternal rights, like matrimony,
Mere myths to a California Daddy.

Meanwhile, I.R.S. takes thirty percent.
Whatever's left, the D.A. cuts in half.
And while I feel lucky I've made my rent,
I'm still not sure rather to cry or laugh.
Cause another man claims my child each year,
And every month, Mom gets a check for her sin,
Visitation depending on silence, I fear,
A California Daddy just can't win...

 Michael Anderson

It's the little things you take for granted,
That'll mean the most to you when they're gone.

[This message has been edited by Michael (edited 12-13-1999).]
© Copyright 1999 Michael Anderson - All Rights Reserved
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1 posted 12-13-1999 12:58 PM       View Profile for Seymour Tabin   Email Seymour Tabin   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Seymour Tabin

Enjoyed the poem and
Believe me you are not alone.
We all do the best we can.
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2 posted 12-13-1999 03:43 PM       View Profile for Pepper   Email Pepper   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Pepper

Sometimes things can be so unfair and this surely is one of those times that it's really high up on the list....
Sorry to hear that you're going through such a rough deal Michael...
A sad and powerful poem....

 A soul that writes from the heart and shares it, truly gives a gift extraordinaire!

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3 posted 12-13-1999 03:53 PM       View Profile for Severn   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Severn

Michael - heart touched I am.

So sad - I know you have many lights in your life to help the pain though. (Like your writing talent...)

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4 posted 12-13-1999 04:00 PM       View Profile for Martie   Email Martie   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Martie's Home Page   View IP for Martie

Your poem speaks of sorrow and bitterness.  I've been through similar and know some of what you must feel.  Stay strong--time moves so fast, though now it may seem slow.

 In the dew of little things,
the heart finds its morning
and is refreshed.
(ee cummings)

[This message has been edited by Martie (edited 12-13-1999).]
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5 posted 12-13-1999 04:10 PM       View Profile for Iloveit   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Iloveit

oh Michael, the poem combined with the picture paints such a heartbreak.....wishing you the best and for the next 2 years to fly by, so that he can come live with you  
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6 posted 12-13-1999 05:23 PM       View Profile for Elizabeth Santos   Email Elizabeth Santos   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Elizabeth Santos

Being an employer, I have seen all too many cases where the father is required to pay child support well beyond his means, and in many cases where the mother doesn't need the funds and does this out of revenge. Don't get me wrong, I believe in child support, but the scales of justice have tipped way too far in the direction of the mother.Many times, the mother is with someone new, who purposely won't adopt the child so that he can benefit from the child support. It happens way too often.
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7 posted 12-13-1999 05:36 PM       View Profile for Andrew Scott   Email Andrew Scott   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Andrew Scott

Ouch!  Sorry you have the means to write such a tale so well.  I bow to you and yours.
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8 posted 12-13-1999 08:47 PM       View Profile for Balladeer   Email Balladeer   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Balladeer's Home Page   View IP for Balladeer

MIchael, this poem is brilliant in its ability to describe so exactly what your situation is. We all see the outpouring of sympathy for a wronged wife but seldom are privy to the suffering of a wronged father. Your poem does this very well.

 To the world you might be just one person but to one person you might just be the world.

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9 posted 12-13-1999 09:01 PM       View Profile for hoot_owl_rn   Email hoot_owl_rn   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit hoot_owl_rn's Home Page   View IP for hoot_owl_rn

Michael....this is an excellent piece of writing that really touched me. You've explained well what a lot of people in your situation feel. I hope he gets to be with you soon as the love of you for each other is so evident.
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10 posted 12-13-1999 10:13 PM       View Profile for Michael   Email Michael   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Michael

     Thank you all for your compassion.  This has been really difficult for me, mainly because the "Valley Fever" illness I have suffered from for the past two years has pretty much mandated I must leave this area for my own well being.
     I so desperately wish Mikey could come with me.  He spends 4 or 5 days a week with me right now anyway, even though I am only entitled to him every other weekend by court ruling.  I hate to think of him being left here while I move...when both he and I feel his real home is with me.
     I hope no one misunderstood this message, I have no beef paying child support, and am proud to take care of my children, but I wonder why a father's heart and a child's heart have to be sacrificed because the mother backed out on the marriage, but still needs the financial support.


[This message has been edited by Michael (edited 12-13-1999).]
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12 posted 12-13-1999 10:30 PM       View Profile for Michael II   Email Michael II   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Michael II

I still want to live with
you. But I can`t so maybe I will some day
I will but in tell then we still see each other.I still love you.

Michael Robert Anderson Jr.
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13 posted 12-14-1999 12:08 AM       View Profile for WhtDove   Email WhtDove   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit WhtDove's Home Page   View IP for WhtDove

Michael this is big time frustration. My brother moved to California, and his wife ended up leaving him. The laws out there are just ridiculous. He has paid through the nose making payments to her. She took him to the cleaners. I don't think it's very fair either. My heart goes out to you, and I hope the bad situation takes a turn about in your favor soon!

Jesus is the reason for the season

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14 posted 12-14-1999 12:31 AM       View Profile for poetFemmeFatale   Email poetFemmeFatale   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for poetFemmeFatale

Oh Michael, this breaks my heart to read this....I saw the title and thought it was gonna be a "fun" poem....You know how I feel about this matter, we've talked alot about it.  Everything is going to be okay - I know he will be with us in due time...Keep the faith that all will work out as it should.  Most everything is going to be in your favor I do believe.  This is a beautiful poem, and it just broke my heart to see Mikey reply to it....He is such a wonderful little boy.  Just like his father.  

 - - - If I can just touch you once, then I feel I have accomplished what I am called to do...- - pFF

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15 posted 12-14-1999 12:33 AM       View Profile for Denise   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Denise

This is heartbreaking, Michael. Sometimes life is so unfair. You will be in my prayers.


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16 posted 12-14-1999 01:36 AM       View Profile for Christopher   Email Christopher   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Christopher

Mike, you have an awesome kid, and to boot you're an awesome father!
I've seen the two of you together, and I know that someday Mikey WILL be with you! As much as it sux, be patient. Things are turning around for you bro... Karma my friend, you have not long to wait before you get what you deserve... and Mike, you deserve the best!
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17 posted 12-14-1999 01:43 AM       View Profile for Eloise   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Eloise

Michael - this was a very sad and powerful piece.  It's quite obvious how Mikey feels.  Hang in there we are all behind you.
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18 posted 12-14-1999 01:51 AM       View Profile for PhaerieChild   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for PhaerieChild

Michael, This was so powerfully written, but beyond that it portrays a love so incredibly deep between a father and his son. Mikey's reply was very heart-wrenching as well and I do believe that since you are so involved with his life that eventually things will shine in your favor and you will be able to be the full time father you wish to be. California laws are very much in favor of the mother but that does not make them right. I think you are both very blessed to able to even have a family relationship in a an age when most fathers are either absent by choice or absent because it just seems to be too hard to cope with. You are an exceptional man and I hope and pray only the best for you and Mikey and Femme. The Lord will shine down on you and show you the way.

 Poetry~ Words falling on paper, painting a dream.

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19 posted 12-14-1999 03:54 AM       View Profile for DreamEvil   Email DreamEvil   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit DreamEvil's Home Page   View IP for DreamEvil

I had thought to bring this up on my nightly rounds if need be. I am glad to see that such action was unnecessary. I will not parrot  the words of those above me for they said what was needed.

There is a difference between Justice and Fairness and sometimes neither serve the best interest of the child or the father.

 Now and forever, my heart hears ~one voice~.
"Either kill me or take me as I am,
because I'll be damned if I ever change..."

Count Donatien Alphonse Francois de Sade
(Marquis de Sade)

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20 posted 12-14-1999 07:20 AM       View Profile for Nan   Email Nan   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Nan's Home Page   View IP for Nan

..... and a big HUUUUUUGE Hug for both of you...
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