Sorry, Andrew, Perhaps I need to work on it further so it will have more clarity. The positions of 'it' changes over time. Think of 'it' as a relationship.
In the past it gnaws and is irritating.
Beside was to symbolize the good times of the relationship, when the wine was perfect.
Now the relationship is over, dirth dishes, but the memories of the relationship produce a desire for another relationship, a table never found.
I'll work on it and try again.
Thanks for you opinion