Swt....A life of hiding things within will only harn you. I don't know your situation or of whom you write. What i do knnow is things can not get better unless you sit down and talk openly. Be open minded as well as patient. State your points and listen to theirs. Do not let your emotions become inflamed and if they do become inflamed take the time to calm before speaking. Words thrown in anger only do more damage. I feel in your words the want to change things. The only way that is accomplished is though honest communication by both parties.