Yep! That mental stuff can be a real kicker. Especially when they've got no clue what they're doing and say its all your fault for the way you are. True, you've got to claim responsibility for yourself and your actions but it makes it all that much easier to live a good life when somebody else believes in you, trusts in you, and loves you. Luckily, my wife has figured out the truth of things and my daughters and I are a constant reminder of how wonderful she is. If it weren't for her and all she's provided in my life, I'd have little to be thankful for. I hope someday your mother will find the means to be thankful for you as well. My best to you.