sooo confused i dont know what to do

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CMlovesGB
Junior Member

since 2007-10-12

Posts 11

0 posted 2007-10-12 05:58 PM

if u were me and u used to love kelvin and now before he leaves to go to florida and everything he tells u that he loves u and before that he said he doesnt love me the way i loved him and now u love this amazing guy named greg he loves u sooo much but u still kinda love kelvin and he loves u what would u do. just be kelvins friend right like im doing.
cm

gb

pink panther 08
New Member

since 2007-12-09

Posts 7
Valdosta,Ga

1 posted 2007-12-21 08:06 PM

Ok, first I wouldn't say I Love you until you are tottally sure you really love that person, second ask yourself what is Love?, third then think about those two and thier definition of what love is and match it to your answer.

If you are unsure of wich one you wont then just be thier friend and let nature take it's course. *Remember, Love is a verry strong word.

Bob K
Member Elite

since 2007-11-03

Posts 4208

2 posted 2008-01-25 01:23 PM

Dear CMlovesGB,

           I can understand your confusion.  I will let you in on a secret.  What people say on paper and what they say out loud is actually the way they think.  There's actually research on this.  You might google Aaron T. Beck or cognitive therapy if you're a details person.

     From the way you write, I can pretty well tell that you and details do not get along well.

     Also you live in a very vivid and emotional world where things come at you thick and fast and get overwhelming at the drop of a hat.  You hate details.  Details are boring.
Details are confusing.

     If, however, you actually want to get yourself unconfused in this situation, you will need to go back and re-write your description of what's happening to you until  you can read it to a close friend and she can understand exactly what is happening.  You'll be able to tell she understands because she'll be able to tell you and you won't feel the urge to correct her, not even once.  Then you'll both know what's happening, you won't be confused but you will probably have to make a decision.  Decisions can be hard, too, but that's a whole different kind of hard, isn't it.

     This is a great place to use your girlfriends!  You can help each other out.  If you're lucky, you'll be able to do that with them your whole life, or with other girlfriends.
Best of luck here, BobK.

Seeker72
Member

since 2007-02-24

Posts 387
Oregon USA

3 posted 2008-01-25 02:53 PM

Must agree with Bob 100%

Falling rain

Member Elite

since 2008-01-31

Posts 2178
Small town, Illinois

4 posted 2008-02-22 11:16 PM

what do you think is right? do you wanna stay with greg? Do you really love him that much to dump greg?? think about this and give me your answer

~Zach~

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