Jejudo, South Korea
Wolfgang, thanks for reading the poem. I didn't mean my 'maturity' comment that seriously although now that I read it again, it does come off a little like that. I did not mean that because Candyman seemed to like this poem, he is mature (what a strange thing to say but, believe it or not, I have heard stuff like that before).
My criticism toward a poem he posted here was a little harsh perhaps and I was impressed that he took it as I intended: just one man's opinion, to be ignored or used at his own discretion.
Personally, I think most poets (professionals and amateurs) are a petty, egotistical lot -- they have to be. Otherwise, why spend so much time on stuff that so few people will appreciate? How can you honestly believe that your writings could be actually enjoyed by other people?
A mature poet is someone who sees criticism in a more pragmatic light, just other people's opinions that may be useful or not to his or her own personal agenda. This may seem like common sense but I've personally responded to criticism very negatively ('You're a disgrace to writing," I was called. Well, we were drinking.) and I just don't think that's a good thing.
The other side of the coin is to avoid the worth of the poem, to avoid engaging it, and simply say,"Good job. Great job. Loved it." on everything you see (or post). This seems hollow and if you do this all the time, doesn't it eventually lose any meaning? Furthermore, a poet who receives such flattery all the time will react that much more negatively when they receive a critical comment.
It seems to me that we all should be critical of each other (say what works and tell people what doesn't from your point of view) but that those who receive criticism should take those comments, not personally, not authoritatively, but as simply one person with one opinion.
Candyman did that. Actually, most people here seem to do this (I like it.)In other places, I've met people who don't.