JerryPat2
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2014-10-11
09:03 PM
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last meeting of the family I was present for was some holiday Thanksgiving, Christmas whatever as I moved among my relatives (not blood, but still . . .) it felt like I was a shadow not really real I was the full-fledged rebel the one talked about a lot funny how things went the female relatives were so curious at my lifestyle and places I had been it was as if they wanted to get me in a corner and pump me for juicy details and they all . . . everyone of them seemed charmed at my outlaw lifestyle but the men relatives were very much standoffish barely a handshake a verbal greeting leaving me standing there wondering what I’d said to send them scampering I know now what it was envy somewhere in their makeup they wish they’d had some of my experiences experiences wondered bout never would ask no matter how much they loved their wives their family they would have loved to travel the country on a wing and a prayer as did I at least for awhile I’m sure the men were more vocal in denouncing me than were their wives ahhh . . . that family get-together was many years ago I never went to another one we never talk anymore
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Michael
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2014-10-11
10:34 PM
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I went to two family get-togethers in my life. One for my mother's side of the family, one for my fathers. I stood alone at each. "Family" was never much more than a word in my vocabulary as I grew up. I've striven to change that with my own children and who knows, maybe one day somewhere down the line their children will go to a family get-together somewhere and nostalgically enjoy where they've come from. One can always hope. Michael
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JerryPat2
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South Louisiana
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2014-10-11
10:48 PM
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I learned early on that family reunions was nothing more than b.s. Eh, at least in my family it was, and it seems the same with yours. Thanks for chiming in.If they give you ruled paper write sideways.
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Marchmadness
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2014-10-12
04:47 AM
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I didn't have much family growing up and many problems in the immediate family. I have worked very hard to change that family dynamic with my own family and actually connected with relatives I never knew as a child. My own family is very close thanks to a lot of patience and mutual support in hard times. I am very grateful for this step forward. Ida
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Lori Grosser Rhoden
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2014-10-12
06:49 AM
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Funny how families can run hot and cold over the years. As my mother's brother's have passed away the reunions have grown smaller. As my own brothers gathered and excluded me that caused a riff that still exists today.
Lori
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JerryPat2
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2014-10-12
07:45 AM
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I see from some of the comments that my problems with my family are not all that rare, Ida. Thank you for your read and input.If they give you ruled paper write sideways.
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JerryPat2
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2014-10-12
07:48 AM
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Yeah, Lori, the families we have were not of our choosing. I honestly don't mind how my relationship with mine has turned out. Thanks for the comment.If they give you ruled paper write sideways.
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Margherita
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2014-10-12
09:04 AM
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Dear Jerry, it is a very special blessing when family members harmonize and I think that more often the reality is like you render it here with your usual poetic skills.
I remember family gatherings when I was a child and in the years of my youth. My aunts and uncles were tremendous criticizers, they all thought I was spoiled by my Mother (she brought me up alone with immense love, as a widow ... and her siblings didn't realize at all what it meant). Living in different countries makes it difficult to cultivate the relationships. I had the joy to meet my brother and family this past Spring here in Rome; that was the first time he came after I married, almost half a century ago!!! (I have visited him at his home in Switzerland though). I have 20 cousins and I am in touch with half a dozen maybe only. There is one cousin who wanted to organize a gathering, but until now it has not been realized, so I fear we are all quickly aging and won't see much of each other anymore and I can't say that I long to see those "strangers" actually.
Well, as you see, your topic made me "chatty"!
Have a beautiful Sunday. Margherita
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JerryPat2
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2014-10-12
09:11 AM
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You may have been "chatty" as you said, but you were making perfect sense, which you always do when you come here to my part of the world. I'm finding that, for the most part, families are not close as they used to be. Even back then, as you so aptly surmised, they wasn't really that close even then. Gossipers, back-stabbing aunts and uncles, et al. You pretty much said it all when you said, "I can't say that I long to see those "strangers" actually."
Thank you for your input, Margherita.
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JamesMichael
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2015-08-20
09:36 PM
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interesting reading...james
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JerryPat2
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2015-08-20
10:23 PM
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Thanks James . . .~*~ When they give you ruled paper write sideways. ~*~
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