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JerryPat2
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0 posted 2014-05-02 11:08 PM



girls/women love the image
danger in a man
manipulative hands coarse
on their cheek
those scars you try hard to not look at
secretly admire
coarse hair on his chest
menacing dagger in his manner
in his eyes
when it’s directed
at you
you’ve learned to duck the closed fist
sometimes and
kiss away
the hardness on his mouth
still . . .
the toxic-tipped arrows hurled at you
the forever clenched fist
angry words
he leaves you on the floor
battered
he goes away for five days
when he shows back up
you take him back
honeymoon like for a few days
before his untamed eyes
clenched fist and broken dishes
are back in full force
this time he puts you in the hospital
he is so ashamed he says
helps nurse you well
when you are able to get around
his yelling begins
you can’t do anything right
they find you after five days
a warrant for murder
has been issued

©March 29, 2014 / Jerry P. Bolton


~*~ Why do we drive on a parkway and park on a driveway? ~*~

[This message has been edited by JerryPat2 (05-03-2014 04:57 PM).]

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Lori Grosser Rhoden
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1 posted 2014-05-03 09:25 AM


It is hard for those on the outside looking in to understand why they stay.  The worst scars on those women are the ones you can't see and they most often have them long before they entered that relationship. Their self esteem is so devastated they feel helpless.

You have done an excellent job of chronicling the cycle. I don't know that the attraction is all physical, often the women have to put up with spousal rape as well, he could just be a good provider and a pillar of the community.

Lori   

JerryPat2
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2 posted 2014-05-03 09:34 AM


Thanks Lori, and I understand there is no simplistic answer to the question I propose. You have given up a great deal concerning what the women are going through. I suppose too they just feel that their love will soon stop the beatings. To men such as that love never does penetrate enough to stop.

~*~ Why do we drive on a parkway and park on a driveway? ~*~

latearrival
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3 posted 2014-05-03 03:54 PM


Women who have a strong sense of self, might never have entered into the relationship. For some reason they never felt their own worth. It must have taken some horrible upbringing that made them so vulnerable and hungry for acceptance. For a few words of love they accept and seem to expect the abuse. A sad situation. You wrote it all clearly. jo  
JerryPat2
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4 posted 2014-05-03 05:01 PM


I know you must be right about the makeup of women who continually take the abuse and even wind up in the hospital and then believes him when he says "I'm sorry," and welcomes him back into her arms where his kisses soon turn into fists. Thank you for speaking of this problem.

~*~ Why do we drive on a parkway and park on a driveway? ~*~

JamesMichael
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5 posted 2014-05-03 07:58 PM


fine writing...I can't speak for a woman that stays but as for human nature I think it has a lot with not wanting to be alone...in some cases perhaps love is involved...James
JerryPat2
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6 posted 2014-05-03 10:29 PM


If love means having your face rearranged every month or so, James, I suppose you are correct. I think it boils down to two things. Either they are masochists, or they are flat out terrified to try to leave.

~*~ Why do we drive on a parkway and park on a driveway? ~*~

2islander2
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7 posted 2014-05-04 02:33 AM


this is akward indeed, these situations semm devastating and the poem bring light on the continual fight od women, thanks Jerry for the délicate work


yann

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