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s1nfully_1nn0c3nt
Senior Member

since 2003-10-26

Posts 1105
Watertown, NY

0 posted 2010-11-09 11:00 AM

Forgive me, please. If
I fail to take pity on you;
you, who sits and cries.
While the children
watch- in fear.
Wretched being.

Why cry?
We all know later
you'll cover it up.
Its just a slip,
of his temper

Stupid door.
It hit you again,
didn't it?

-Trina.

"To decieve ones self, is truly a grueling battle. One which we're destined to lose."

Amaryllis
Senior Member

since 2010-05-20

Posts 1306
Mi now

1 posted 2010-11-09 11:15 AM

Oh Trina, so powerful... this is a brave write, written with a blunt voice... and so very sad. I`m sure many people have these thoughts when witnessing the aftermath of domestic violence; misunderstanding leads to lack of empthy at times, and we ask, in befuddlement: `why does she stay?`  Well, the sorrowful truth is that unless we`ve walked (or hobbled) a mile (or even a yard) in those shoes, we cannot understand~ typically the woman`s spirit is so crushed as to render her powerless. It`s times like this we most need empathy... usually it takes outside help, and many women `leave` 4 or more times before they stay gone for good, unless she `leaves` in the most final and terrible way.    =(     Women who live with an abuser are at their highest risk when attempting to leave.
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Anyhow, I`l get off my soapbox now, dear.  I think you`ve written an important piece- one that asks the tough questions, gets people thinking.
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And may you never `understand`, first hand.
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Best~
Amaryllis

Eusta B. Mae
Senior Member

since 2010-05-03

Posts 903

2 posted 2010-11-09 11:32 AM

Excellent! I seriously thank Amaryllis for her stand on the soap box. Your poem is very powerful and all too true. again I say excellent. ebm

Dark Stranger
Member Patricius

since 2001-03-19

Posts 13631
West Coast

3 posted 2010-11-09 12:23 PM

an adooring view of the doorment rage hidden below the surface of many doormestic unions.

enjoyed it ms sinz

JerryPat
Senior Member

since 2010-10-30

Posts 1991
Louisiana/America

4 posted 2010-11-09 12:33 PM

I was fortunate to grow up in a house where my father would never in their bitterest arguments thought to his my mother. The same cannot be said for her way of thinking about hitting him.

Amaryllis
Senior Member

since 2010-05-20

Posts 1306
Mi now

5 posted 2010-11-09 12:50 PM

Hitting is always wrong, in my view. But, seriously... did your father truly `fear` your mother, Jerry?? Did he fear for his life? The vast majority of D.V. is men against women, and, with the disparity in physicality (we are typically smaller/weaker) it makes for a truly terrifying scenario for a woman, and usually an emotionally sad/annoying one for a man. In my opinion.
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~A

Prasad Nataraj
Senior Member

since 2008-05-29

Posts 1149
Bangalore,India

6 posted 2010-11-09 01:42 PM

Fine writing. Violence is always wrong be it any living being.

"Hardwork pays in the long run"

s1nfully_1nn0c3nt
Senior Member

since 2003-10-26

Posts 1105
Watertown, NY

7 posted 2010-11-09 03:13 PM

Indeed, violence is wrong. Hmmm....My opinion on abuse is undecided.
Sometimes, I think that anyone who stays (even when given the opportunity to leave) deserves what will happen to them, No one can really save them.
(keep in mind, this is my thoughts on the matter)
I know some people do need help, because as Amaryllis has stated- sometimes they're just physically incapable (smaller/weaker) to take action.
In the end, I truly don't understand why anyone would stay in a violent relationship. I, for one, wouldn't. Perhaps its courage or stupidity, or both. I'd either stand up for myself and what I believe in, or I'd die trying. Ah, just me rambling.

Thanx Amaryllis, EBM, Dark, Jerry, Prasad.