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rachaelfuchsberger

Senior Member

since 2007-02-21

Posts 609
Las Vegas, NV

0 posted 2009-10-03 04:13 PM

I'm really scared right now, and not sure how to deal with it. My girlfriend had a mammogram on Thursday because we found a lump in her right breast. Yesterday, the doctor called her into his office and said that the mass is star-shaped. This is not a good thing because a cyst would normally just be round. He said that, while there's no garauntee that it IS breast cancer, the chances don't look good. Tonia, my girlfriend, has a family history of breast and ovarian cancer. She has an ultrasound and needle biopsy scheduled for next week. They also want to do an ultrasound on her pelvis to check for signs of ovarian cancer. This is all very scary for me, because I've never gone through anything like this before. I've never had anyone close to me that had a life threatening disease. I haven't been allowing myself to cry around Tonia, because I'm trying to be strong for her, but it's very hard for me. I don't quite know how to process it all. I'm researching things on the Susan G. Komen site and looking into other information, but I'm also trying to hold on to the hope that the result of the biopsy is benign. Anyway. I guess I just needed to get all of that out.

Arana Darkwolf

suthern

Member Seraphic

since 1999-07-29

Posts 20723
Louisiana

1 posted 2009-10-03 05:54 PM

I don't blame you for being scared...it's part of caring... but I will join you in hoping for the best.

Alison

Member Rara Avis

since 2008-01-27

Posts 9318
Lumpy oatmeal makes me crazy!

2 posted 2009-10-03 06:14 PM

Sweetie,

As I said before ... my heart goes out to you and Tonia. I will hope for the best on this one and be here for you if you need me. I know it is your nature to be strong - but sometimes it helps the other person to show some of that fear. My family tends to be so strong that the one who is scared the most can almost feel closed out. Know what I mean? Just be yourself - talk to her, show that you have tears for her too - and hang in there. Keep us posted.

Love,
Z

rachaelfuchsberger

Senior Member

since 2007-02-21

Posts 609
Las Vegas, NV

3 posted 2009-10-03 06:14 PM

Thank you, suthern.

Arana Darkwolf

rachaelfuchsberger

Senior Member

since 2007-02-21

Posts 609
Las Vegas, NV

4 posted 2009-10-03 06:24 PM

Thank you so much, Z. I know I can always count on you for support. Right now, we're just holding on to hope that the biopsy shows it to be a benign mass.

Arana Darkwolf

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