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Girl Trouble (Need Help Right Now)

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Elias Nevermore
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0 posted 09-06-2009 02:04 AM       View Profile for Elias Nevermore   Email Elias Nevermore   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Elias Nevermore

What if someone you care about is hurt and angered by something one of your friends said?

What if that person was just as mad at you as she was at your friend?

What if you broke up with this person the day before your friend said those stupid things that made your ex girlfriend angry?

What if you have apologized for the last 3 hours constantly tell you ex-girlfriend that the things your friend said were completely and utterly uncalled for, yet she was still mad?

Also, the fact that I am in high school, and things like this get spread around quickly, and that I am only sixteen yet all this is being forced upon me.

That is my problem at this very moment, so any advice would be helpful.

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1 posted 09-06-2009 04:28 AM       View Profile for Alison   Email Alison   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Alison

First, "friends" don't carry tales to other people and start conflict and hurt feelings.  So, the first thing I would do is look at this "friend" and decide if I needed that kind of "friend" in my life.  Know what I mean?

Next, you said you are sorry.  Maybe the girl needs some space.  You broke up with her the day before, right?  Then your "friend" told her things that weren't true, but were hurtful.  Right?  How much can this girl take?  

I am sure that she is hurt and confused - and probably pretty damn angry right now.  You know the saying that actions speak louder than words?  Maybe you need to be her friend and give her time to forgive you - or trust you again.

There's not a lot you can do actually.  One thing you can do is control these type of situations in the future and make sure you don't get into this kind of corner again.  Keep your girl friend relationships seperate from your "friend" relationships.  Don't share private stuff and show the girl respect - maybe you did that, but if you did, I am not sure how your 'friend' was able to tell stuff that caused conflict.

It's really too late for me to think clearly about this - but I would give her time, treat her well and show her that you are worthy of being her friend.

Good luck.

Alison
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I agree with Alison. It sounds like time to move on and hopefully learn something that will help you grow from this experience. The best thing I have found works best in these types of situations is to focus on what is important to YOU; what YOU want to do with YOUR new life. Write down some goals that are important to YOU right now. Look forward, not backward.
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