I have heard this or variation of this from several women over the years. It's always in confidence, so they have no reason to lie to me. They have various degrees of belief in the story themselves because of the situations they have taken place in. I suspect that they're generally true, and it sounds as though your friend's story is true. Shellie is offering excellent information and advice. She may want to discuss with her counsellor whether she wants to speak to the man involved or perhaps bring him into some of the sessions, though the latter course may prove very difficult. Also his perception of the events may be different than hers.
I believe your friend's version is accurate, by the way.
Rape, not being particularly a sexual crime, is hard to defend against. You have probably heard that it is a crime of violence. I think this is probably true. I think it is also possibly a crime about assertion of power, so it is often blamed on the victim. It is a way of re-victimizing, a sort of two for the price of one. How pretty or how old the victim is can make a difference, but isn't necessarily the deciding factor.
One of the factors that I have heard brought up frequently by folks who've been raped is alcohol. I did a lot of therapy with folks with drinking issues, so you must understand that my sample was stacked in that direction. I suspect that drinking or drugs however is a common factor in the cases where rape comes up of counsellors who did not see such a high ratio of drug and alcohol folks. We sometimes talk about these things, though not about confidential stuff, which is off the table.
In addition to the number of rapes that happen to victims while they are high on alcohol, I believe alcohol tends to disinhibit potential rapists as well. This is not a good combination for either party. There is also the situation of folks who drink and "pass out."
"Passing out" means essentially that the brain is not putting events into memory that lasts longer that about five minutes. Longer-term memory is temporarily not functioning, and the person can loose hours or days of memory, not knowing where they've been or who they've been with for the time in between. There are comic stories about this sort of thing, but most of the folks that I've dealt with who've had the experience have not reported anything comic about it.
For that reason, I would suggest that your friend limit the amount of drinking she does to one or possibly two standard sized drinks a night, no more, and that she limit those she dates to those who do the same. She should try that for a month and talk to you to see if her dating life is any different. Heck, if her life is any different, period. Perhaps this might make a difference.
She needs to get connected to counseling or therapy. I'm terribly sorry that such a wretched thing happened to her, and I'm more than sorry that people don't believe her. The events were real, she is real and her suffering is real, and if she can talk it over with s good counselor or a group, she will experience her recovery as real as well. If her parents have been treating her as though she's been crying wolf, she may even experience herself as more real than before.
Very sincerely yours,