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xxvampirecmxx
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since 08-31-2008
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new york


0 posted 09-01-2008 12:59 PM       View Profile for xxvampirecmxx   Email xxvampirecmxx   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit xxvampirecmxx's Home Page   View IP for xxvampirecmxx


i have met a guy.hes older than me way older than me and i want to be with him more than you know.im just so scared of getting to close.i dont want to get hurt again.i hate feeling that inside.he says hes different i have heard that soo many times before and he wants to get closer to me too but why do i still pull back if hes taking a risk too?
i dont know what to do anymore.i really dont
nakdthoughts
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since 10-29-2000
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Between the Lines


1 posted 09-02-2008 10:48 AM       View Profile for nakdthoughts   Email nakdthoughts   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for nakdthoughts

First of all not knowing the ages one can't give any opinions...

But way older sounds like he has many more life experiences than you and if you are in your teens or early 20's  you should meet and befriend people closer to your own age who have things in common.
I always wonder why someone "way older" chooses to be with someone young. Sometimes they are  immature and other times they are "predators".
So talk to family, talk to your friends, and don't get intimately involved with someone you really know so little about.  A person should know and feel comfortable with another and certainly learn some "background" and truths, if possible,about them, before taking those "risks".
Be Safe!
Just my "mature aged" opinion"  
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Woodsman
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Stony Creek, Va originally...N


2 posted 09-15-2008 10:09 AM       View Profile for Woodsman   Email Woodsman   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Woodsman's Home Page   View IP for Woodsman

I can honestly say that I dont think age is the issue...Im goin to be 31 next month and my fiance is 43. If its something you both want then that SHOULDNT be an issue. It sounds more like something else is holding you back, you should first try to figure that out before anything else...the last thing you want to do is rush unsure feelings, its not fair to you or him.

Hope that helps and made some kind of sence...

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nakdthoughts
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3 posted 09-16-2008 06:51 AM       View Profile for nakdthoughts   Email nakdthoughts   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for nakdthoughts

Age does make a difference, especially if you are female. (I checked your myspace page and it said you were only 19)  To me  that means if the "guy" you are interested in  is "way" older than you I would think he has had many more life experiences (as I posted previously) and YOU are just beginning your adult life. Be friends first, and find out a little of his past. Make sure he isn't married because most men DO NOT leave their wives or families for another.
Find out what his intentions are and if you are content with that, then fine...otherwise
I wouldn't get intimately involved. There is nothing wrong with a great friendship if it doesn't stifle you.

And as for Woodsman's comments, 31 is  quite a different age than 19 and he has had at least 12 more years of experiences than you. It is always better to be safe than sorry later.

My best to you in whatever you choose.
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ramisf
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4 posted 09-20-2008 12:51 AM       View Profile for ramisf   Email ramisf   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for ramisf

He is older means he is wiser. If he is a rational person with rational conversations just go for it. I doubt you can figure this out since you are only 19 and you lack experience in life. Beware of that person is playing around. Do whatever you see yourself comfortable to create a nurturing environment where you can flourish
Grinch
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5 posted 09-20-2008 12:09 PM       View Profile for Grinch   Email Grinch   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Grinch

My advice is donít take any advice on relationships handed out in an internet poetry forum - however well intentioned - people who donít know you or the situation are as likely to give you totally useless advice as they are to give you anything useful.

If you are going to ask someone advice try someone who knows you, him or preferably both of you.

If all else fails ask your mom, moms arenít always right, definitely not impartial but theyíre normally pre-programmed to always have your best interests at heart.

[This message has been edited by Grinch (09-20-2008 12:46 PM).]

sandgrain
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since 09-21-1999
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Sycamore, IL, USA


6 posted 09-20-2008 10:17 PM       View Profile for sandgrain   Email sandgrain   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for sandgrain

Well, I had 2 boys and 3 girls, 13 grandchildren and now have great-grandchildren.  

Nad's advice is wise and valuable for
any young lady to heed. I, too, would wonder why a much older guy is taking such an interest.  Sometimes it's just an ego booster for them at others expense.  Be careful!
xxvampirecmxx
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new york


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thank you so much for everyones advice. i talked to him more and well hes not the one for me at all. hes intentions were based on something totally different then my own.everyones advice helped me out and choose the right thing to do.
 
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