Poetry for whom? If we're talking about effusions, poetry can be whatever you like. It's for yourself. You need please only yourself, and that's enough, isn't it?
If were's talking about poetry as therapy, then all you need worry about is if your poetry has helped you achieve the emotional release you've been looking for. If it has, then no matter what else it is, it's poetry and it's worked and that's fine.
Where things get sticky is if you want your poetry actually to be read by those complicated, frustrating and demanding other people in the world. That's when you have to be careful to be very clear that whatever else you are doing, you are writing for an audience. This means that you must subordinate whatever else you do to making what you write too interesting to put down. Even when your effusions are fascinating to you, or what you say provides you personally with a wonderful release of emotion, these narcissistic jollies must be be excluded to the extent they get in the way of your reader geting from one word to the next. That's the art of it. If you want poetry as art, that's probably where you want to look.
The great enemy is narcissism, which covers everything you do with a blinding lustre which obscures what's actually there. Because you've written them, the most appalling turns of phrase may be invisible. People are often too polite to point them out or too confounded because of your own defensiveness. After all, you're only standing up for yourself, right?
I notice I'm foaming at the mouth. The subject tends to get me going. Sorry. BobK