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nick_lyss
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since 2006-08-21

Posts 88

0 posted 2006-11-08 04:45 PM

       when you look back you always try to look  back on what you could have changed but the more you look the more everything gets jumbled up.

    You start wishing you were someone else like if I was a lot skinner, he would of stayed with me and if I had bigger boobs.

      If I could of changed how I looked maybe he would of still have been with me. I want him back so much.
      I will try about anything to win him back but I know he wont want me because I am not pretty enough. He wants a girl that’s more experienced. I am definitely  not that. I have only kissed one guy.

       I want a new boyfriend so much. I feel so alone. I need a new boyfriend. I am very shy. So its hard for me to talk to guys.

       I have so many crushes but I know they wont go out with me. I think I may sort of like this 10 grader but a 12 grader. My friend sort of likes this one too. She liked my ex boyfriend too.

sandgrain
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since 1999-09-21

Posts 3662
Sycamore, IL, USA

1 posted 2006-11-09 12:15 PM

One of the wisest things I remember reading on this is to make a list of atributes you want to find in your prince charming..(politeness, sense of humor, kindness, etc.)being realistic. When finished look at yourself and honestly see which of those you possess, then work on our own lack. We can't make someone like us, but bettering ourselves will make us more attractive and give us more to talk about. You're shy, so join a debate team, or something where you get used to talking in front of others. Work on sharpening your skills, learning new things, giving as a volunteer, etc. I'tll get you a lot further than guy hunting.

If a guy's only interested in a gal for her looks, he's too narrowminded anyway.

Hope it helps

Rae

Juju
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since 2003-12-29

Posts 3429
In your dreams

2 posted 2006-11-09 02:43 PM

You shouldn't judge youre self worth by a boyfriend.  You don't want to be disperate.  You deserve a wonderful man you loves you for you and vis versa.  Beleiving in such things will cause you to follow roads were a relationship is fake.  You don't want a man that uses you.  And if all the guys in your highschool stink, do what I did and date none of them.  You know I know peer pressure to be like every one is terrible.

And being pretty and all that jazz has its consequenceas. I really suffered.

If you want a boy friend I suggest that you date out side of highschool.  do extra curricular activities and meet poeple out side of school.

I really stress you get away from "highschool" if it is causing you so many troubles.

-Juli

-Juju

-"So you found a girl
Who thinks really deep thougts
What's so amazing about really deep thoughts " Silent all these Years, Tori Amos

Midnitesun

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since 2001-05-18

Posts 28647
Gaia

3 posted 2006-11-09 07:12 PM

Both ladies who replied so far have offered warm and honest suggestions. Be what you must be, not what someone else needs.
I am online a lot. Email me if you want.
Though I am old as the hills, I have made that mistake even as an adult, wanting someone enough to give up part of myself.
But no more...for if you give up too much, there is nothing left if/when the relationship ends. Self-reliance, self-esteem, self-respect all suffer if you try to change yourself to suit someone else.
Hugs, life doesn't really get easier, but it gets more interesting!

Kimberly ann
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since 2006-05-29

Posts 61

4 posted 2006-11-10 11:23 AM

if he doesn't like the way u look or anything like that then hes not wroth your time.....u may like him but if he doesn't like the way u look then he is to shallow anyways...its always wats on the inside wat counts....i kno the whole i need a boyfriend i feel alone i need someone to love me and me to love back, I understand.....and about the whole crushes and 10th graded well about the crushes try to make friends with them or hang around them let them get to kno u...hopefully they aren't shallow....and ur friend....its a girls rule not to do that, go out with your friends crush but as we get older we need to learn that friends are more important....also depending on ur guys friendship make a decision. good luck and hope u think about it

hugs
Kimberly ann

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