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hunnie_girl
since 2006-06-18
Posts 2567Canada |
i feel torn in ways you can't imagine for the last few months i've been i don't know in the midst of depression and everytime it gets better a while and then i go back to being depressed again. i think living where i am is causing to much stress, my parents are divorced and i want to go live with my dad but there are things keeping me here like in january i start singing lessons and there is this guy i like that might like me back up here. so if i go live with my dad i don't really have that stuff but i am still depressed here until. also if i move with my dad my mom will never take me back she said and i don't really want to sever our relationship. cuz if it doesn't work out with my dad then what? but i don't know what to do can you guys give me advice please? hunnie* A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war and a time for peace ~Ecclesiastes 3:8~ |
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sandgrain Member Elite
since 1999-09-21
Posts 3662Sycamore, IL, USA |
Gosh, your message just tears at my heart. I really have no advice as I know no one involved or why you'd like to move. I know what you're saying about not wanting to sever ties with your mom, but I'm guessing she doesn't want you moving back and forth to get your own way at a particular time because that would be harmful to you in the long run. Did you discuss this with her when things were calm? I'll say some prayers for you. Rae |
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hunnie_girl
since 2006-06-18
Posts 2567Canada |
yea i did talk to her about this before and i'll tell you things Were not calm after that she was really mad and sad at the same time I felt horrible I don’t really know what else to do and/or how to talk to her about this but thanks a lot Rae  |
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sandgrain Member Elite
since 1999-09-21
Posts 3662Sycamore, IL, USA |
Have you tried confiding in a school counselor? I'm guessing they'd have dealt with this before, or have alternatives for you to see. I'm sure this affects your schooling as well as so much else in your life. (((Hugs))), Rae |
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Juju Member Elite
since 2003-12-29
Posts 3429In your dreams |
I am sorry. That hurts. I know mind games stink. I really feal for you. -Juju -Juju |
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hunnie_girl
since 2006-06-18
Posts 2567Canada |
well... i don't know if i'd have the guts to talk to someone about my problems i have thought about it but i always have this problem doing things that would draw attention to me so i don't do them. also i am afraid of what people think of me. i donno it's kinda complicated. i wish there was an easy button. thanx Rae and Juju hunnie* A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war and a time for peace ~Ecclesiastes 3:8~ |
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Juju Member Elite
since 2003-12-29
Posts 3429In your dreams |
I say demand your parents pay for a councler since thay are getting a divorce. -Juju -Juju |
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hunnie_girl
since 2006-06-18
Posts 2567Canada |
ohhhhhhhh my parents aren't getting divorced they are divorced oops i guess i didn't make that clear sry  hunnie* A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war and a time for peace ~Ecclesiastes 3:8~ |
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hunnie_girl
since 2006-06-18
Posts 2567Canada |
they have been for almost ten years...hmmmm and i'm not upset about that; i acually don't know why i am depressed it just comes and goes i guess... A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war and a time for peace ~Ecclesiastes 3:8~ |
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sandgrain Member Elite
since 1999-09-21
Posts 3662Sycamore, IL, USA |
Yes, it was clear that they're divorsed. Please request a visit with your school counselor. Admitting you have problems isn't calling attention to yourself. We all do, although the names may differ. It's not demeaning to ask for help. Actually, it shows strength and integrety through a willingness to face the situation. God bless, Rae |
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Kira Aso Member
since 2006-09-26
Posts 351Closer to Hell... |
It sounds more like you have more of a problem with depression then you do with you're parents (Am I right?) I had the same problem (Sometimes still have it) You may not need to speak to a counselor but you should talk to someone. (I have a feeling there's something just below the surface that you're not telling!) I know how it feels to be depressed and I know how it feels when no one else understands it. I serously hope you get help where I didn't. Love and prayers coming your way hunnie! Kira |
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Juju Member Elite
since 2003-12-29
Posts 3429In your dreams |
Oh, No I said it wrong it was clear. I knew they were already divorced. Sorry.  -Juju -Juju |
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hunnie_girl
since 2006-06-18
Posts 2567Canada |
well, i want to get help but acually i don't know what to say,b/c i don't really know whats wrong with me and i don't really know what i could say to people, it's always hard for me to talk to my friends cuz everytime i have a problem and say it they always change it to whats wrong with them and so i don't talk anymore. hmmmm i have thought about talking to someone but.... hmmm how do i start the sentence? thanxs for keeping up with the conversations, i think it is helping. hunnie* |
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Member Rara Avis
since 1999-05-19
Posts 8669Michigan, US |
What would you tell your doctor if you woke up almost every day with a blinding headache? Depression that lasts more than two weeks is a medical problem, just like headaches that don't go away. Both needed to be treated. |
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Kira Aso Member
since 2006-09-26
Posts 351Closer to Hell... |
Yup that's right! Deppression doesn't mean you're wacked out or anything...It's some kind of chemical imbalance or whatever docters call it! Being deppressed isn't healthy, it means somthing is wrong and you're body is trying to tell you that. I'm not sure if that's really what's wrong since I'm not a docter or anything... And yeah I know what you mean about trying to talk to someone about you're problems! (I was the friend that listened to everyone else's problems and never wanted to bother them with mine) Would one of you're parent's listen you think? If not then maybe some other family member. Starting the conversation isn't easy but I'd start out by telling them how you've been feeling lately. Some adults DO recognize the signs of deppression. I'm certain that if you looked into you're family tree you'd find that you're not the only one fighting the D-word. (Deppression is a deppressing word) Wish I could give you some mind blowing advice hunnie, but since I can't I'll be sending MORE prayers and hope you're way! ~Kira P.S. sometimes deppression can be cured by simply finding something to do with you're time (Like running outside or shopping!) Don't let yourself get isolated from the rest of the world. |
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Juju Member Elite
since 2003-12-29
Posts 3429In your dreams |
There is nothing wrong with going to a therapist. I go to one. It helps alot. -Juju |
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hunnie_girl
since 2006-06-18
Posts 2567Canada |
tx guys i think i'm going to talk to my mom tonight wish me luck cuz i might need it i don't know it's not easy talking to someone after you've hurt them already you don't want to do it again. but i guess i have to. thanks for all your advice it really helps hunnie* |
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