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0 posted 10-10-2006 12:37 AM       View Profile for hunnie_girl   Email hunnie_girl   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for hunnie_girl

i feel torn in ways you can't imagine for the last few months i've been i don't know in the midst of depression and everytime it gets better a while and then i go back to being depressed again. i think living where i am is causing to much stress, my parents are divorced and i want to go live with my dad but there are things keeping me here like in january i start singing lessons and there is this guy i like that might like me back up here. so if i go live with my dad i don't really have that stuff but i am still depressed here until. also if i move with my dad my mom will never take me back she said and i don't really want to sever our relationship. cuz if it doesn't work out with my dad then what? but i don't know what to do can you guys give me advice please?
hunnie*

A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war and a time for peace   ~Ecclesiastes 3:8~

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1 posted 10-10-2006 03:45 PM       View Profile for sandgrain   Email sandgrain   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for sandgrain

Gosh, your message just tears at my heart.  I really have no advice as I know no one involved or why you'd like to move.  I know what you're saying about not wanting to sever ties with your mom, but I'm guessing  she doesn't want you moving back and forth to get your own way at a particular time because that would be harmful to you in the long run. Did you discuss this with her when things were calm?  I'll say some prayers for you.

   Rae
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2 posted 10-11-2006 02:22 PM       View Profile for hunnie_girl   Email hunnie_girl   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for hunnie_girl

yea i did talk to her about this before and i'll tell you things Were not calm after that she was really mad and sad at the same time I felt horrible I donít really know what else to do and/or how to talk to her about this but thanks a lot Rae   
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Have you tried confiding in a school counselor?  I'm guessing they'd have dealt with this before, or have alternatives for you to see.  I'm sure this affects your schooling as well as so much else in your life.

(((Hugs))),
     Rae
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I am sorry. That hurts. I know mind games stink.  I really feal for you.

-Juju

-Juju

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Who thinks really deep thougts
What's so amazing about really deep thoughts " Silient all these Years, Tori Amos

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5 posted 10-11-2006 07:48 PM       View Profile for hunnie_girl   Email hunnie_girl   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for hunnie_girl

well... i don't know if i'd have the guts to talk to someone about my problems i have thought about it but i always have this problem doing things that would draw attention to me so i don't do them. also i am afraid of what people think of me. i donno it's kinda complicated. i wish there was an easy button. thanx  Rae and Juju
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I say demand your parents pay for a councler since thay are getting a divorce.

-Juju

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Who thinks really deep thougts
What's so amazing about really deep thoughts " Silient all these Years, Tori Amos

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7 posted 10-11-2006 11:00 PM       View Profile for hunnie_girl   Email hunnie_girl   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for hunnie_girl

ohhhhhhhh my parents aren't getting divorced they are divorced oops i guess i didn't make that clear sry
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8 posted 10-12-2006 11:24 AM       View Profile for hunnie_girl   Email hunnie_girl   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for hunnie_girl

they have been for almost ten years...hmmmm and i'm not upset about that; i acually don't know why i am depressed it just comes and goes i guess...

A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war and a time for peace   ~Ecclesiastes 3:8~

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Yes, it was clear that they're divorsed.  Please request a visit with your school counselor. Admitting you have problems isn't calling attention to yourself. We all do, although the names may differ. It's not demeaning to ask for help.  Actually, it shows strength and integrety through a willingness to face the situation.

God bless,
    Rae  
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It sounds more like you have more of a problem with depression then you do with
you're parents
(Am I right?)
I had the same problem (Sometimes still have it) You may not need to speak to a counselor but you should talk to someone. (I have a feeling there's something just below the surface that you're not telling!) I know how it feels to be depressed and I know how it feels when no one else understands it.

I serously hope you get help where I didn't.

Love and prayers coming your way hunnie!

Kira
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Oh, No I said it wrong it was clear.  I knew they were already divorced.  Sorry.

-Juju

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Who thinks really deep thougts
What's so amazing about really deep thoughts " Silient all these Years, Tori Amos

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12 posted 10-14-2006 12:16 AM       View Profile for hunnie_girl   Email hunnie_girl   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for hunnie_girl

well, i want to get help but acually i don't know what to say,b/c i don't really know whats wrong with me and i don't really know what i could say to people, it's always hard for me to talk to my friends cuz everytime i have a problem and say it they always change it to whats wrong with them and so i don't talk anymore. hmmmm i have thought about talking to someone but.... hmmm how do i start the sentence?
thanxs for keeping up with the conversations, i think it is helping.
hunnie*
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What would you tell your doctor if you woke up almost every day with a blinding headache? Depression that lasts more than two weeks is a medical problem, just like headaches that don't go away. Both needed to be treated.
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14 posted 10-14-2006 09:57 AM       View Profile for Kira Aso   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Kira Aso

Yup that's right!

Deppression doesn't mean you're wacked out or anything...It's some kind of chemical imbalance or whatever docters call it!

Being deppressed isn't healthy, it means somthing is wrong and you're body is trying to tell you that.

I'm not sure if that's really what's wrong since I'm not a docter or anything...

And yeah I know what you mean about trying to talk to someone about you're problems! (I was the friend that listened to everyone else's problems and never wanted to bother them with mine) Would one of you're parent's listen you think? If not then maybe some other family member. Starting the conversation isn't easy but I'd start out by telling them how you've been feeling lately. Some adults DO recognize the signs of deppression. I'm certain that if you looked into you're family tree you'd find that you're not the only one fighting the D-word.
(Deppression is a deppressing word)

Wish I could give you some mind blowing advice hunnie, but since I can't I'll be sending MORE prayers and hope you're way!

~Kira

P.S. sometimes deppression can be cured by simply finding something to do with you're time (Like running outside or shopping!) Don't let yourself get isolated from the rest of the world.
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There is nothing wrong with going to a therapist.  I go to one.  It helps alot.

-Juju

-"So you found a girl
Who thinks really deep thougts
What's so amazing about really deep thoughts " Silient all these Years, Tori Amos

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16 posted 10-15-2006 05:05 PM       View Profile for hunnie_girl   Email hunnie_girl   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for hunnie_girl

tx guys i think i'm going to talk to my mom tonight wish me luck cuz i might need it i don't know it's not easy talking to someone after you've hurt them already you don't want to do it again. but i guess i have to.
thanks for all your advice it really helps
hunnie*
 
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