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ska babe
Member

since 2005-11-08

Posts 58
nowwhere, IN

0 posted 2006-02-22 02:46 PM

right now i dont now what to think say or do. i cant really say whats its all about buti can say if u tell someone something really importent and then they get mad at u or about it!!!!im so confused about what to do an what to say. god i need alot of help!!!!!

"I am the one who has to die when it's my time to die, so I'm gonna live life the way I wanna"- Jimi Hendrix

Mysteria

Member Laureate

since 2001-03-07

Posts 18328
British Columbia, Canada

1 posted 2006-02-22 03:09 PM

Well...the main thing is that if you told the truth and they got hurt or mad, then this is not about you, it is about them. Let it be their "stuff" and it will pass. We are only able to control how we feel not anyone else unfortunately. Any friend that is forgiving is indeed a good friend. If they don't realize you said it in love, then you will get your answer to your own questions in time and move on. I have been there and done that, and as they say, "wore that t-shirt." I am sure what I have said doesn't make it hurt any less, but that is how we find out our real friends in life from the transients.

sandgrain
Member Elite

since 1999-09-21

Posts 3662
Sycamore, IL, USA

2 posted 2006-02-22 08:02 PM

Amen to Sharon's advice! I had to tell my children things they didn't want to hear. There were times when I told my kids I could tolarate them hating me now as long as it kept them safe.

If your conscience is clear, feel secure in it knowing God knows your intention.

Rae

LeeJ
Member Patricius

since 2003-06-19

Posts 13296

3 posted 2006-02-23 07:01 AM

I believe honesty can only prove a great reward...even though someone was upset with you, think about the guilt, and the pain a lie would cause someone. Its not always easy to tell the truth, but no matter how much it hurts to do so, you must. Your highly respected in my book and things always have a way of working themselves out, with patience and allowance. Allow time to groom you, and learn...it's a great life to do so.

Hugs to you and my best.
Lee J.

Silent Prisoner
Junior Member

since 2006-02-15

Posts 39
Around Somewhere

4 posted 2006-02-23 04:39 PM

First of all you deserve congradulations for telling that person the truth. That must have taken alot of courage since it was taken so badly by the other person. I think that if you give it time the hurt won't nessicarily go away completely but things will get better. It sounds to me that you were hurt by that persons reaction to what you had to tell them but just maybe they were a little hurt by the message itself.

I hope that things get better for you. And that it all works out in the end, cause nothing good ever leaves us.

Silent

"It's not the letting go that hurts, it's the holding on."

desert-spike
Member

since 2006-02-01

Posts 194
TX/USA

5 posted 2006-02-25 06:07 AM

Agreed, agreed. Honesty is always the best policy.

That said, if the person you took into your confidence can't handle something important-or handles it immaturely-said person, in the long run, islike not worth your time.

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