Sycamore, IL, USA
A gal I know, is now going through a terrible time with her elderly mother, who has diabeties and a lung disease. This gal drives for hours in inclement weather to clean her mom's apartment, bring her new clothes,and look out for her welfare. The mom accuses her of stealing from her, keeping her imprisioned in the nursing home where she presently is, etc. The daughter says, I feel someone has to care for nasty people, even though she's still as mean as she was when we were kids. Now that's family!
I'm sorry you've been hurt, but maybe you need to ask WHY this incident was withheld from you. There may be reasons you're not aware of that are understandable.
Sometimes I wish I'd withheld some things from my children. I had a neglectful anesthesiologist when one was born (c-section)and almost died. I talked about this with someone (10 years later?), thinking
that child was outside playing. One day saying he'd overheard me, he asked why I'd never told him. He was very hurt that I hadn't, yet hurt even more, I think, because he felt guilt being it was his birth. That's the very reason I would never have told him.
Hope this helps.