A Romantic Heart
Forever In Your Heart
Forgiveness is for yourself Kelly, holding on to all of this is not good for you, you are holding on to anger, hate, it is makeing your life miserable.It is a big weight that you are carrying around.(I was in this place once)
Your friend may be ashamed for her actions, this is only my guess as to why she has not brought up the subject. Deep down I think she knows how you feel and doesn't know how to talk to you about it or maybe is afraid of the anger she will get from you.
If your approach to her is geniune and soft, tears will flow and healing should take place, talk it out with her, get this off both of your chests.This could make your relationship better than before, closer.
The past is the past it is gone, there is nothing we can do to go back to fix it to make it better, we only have today.Trials will come in life, to grow us, to help us become a better person, to teach us. It isn't the trial istself, but how we handle the situation, how we react to it, what we do with it, that is the test. That is part of what we will be judged on, when we get to heaven.
Think of all the good times, you both are missing out on with eachother. A friend of ten years, alot there to just throw away.
All that happened was bad, I hate that you had to go through that. Take what happend to you and use it to help other women who need to talk about this to someone who understands, and the only people who can understand is someone who has been there.
But only when you are ready to share and tell it, and I think you are, you did a bold thing by posting this , and that is a good step.A step toward healing.
I think the healing between the both of you needs to happen first. Sometimes in life, one person has to be the more responsible one, the more wise. The one to take the first step.
We all make mistakes that hurt others, we are all human and will continue to make mistakes,(Jesus even states while dying on the cross "FATHER FORGIVE THEM FOR THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO") but we must learn from them, grow and gain something good from all the pain, turn it around to use for the good, for yourself and others.
I heard one of my friends talk about his best friend and how they had been friends for years, they got into a bad arguement, and he left his house, the next hour or so, he received a phone call that his friend had been killed in an auto accident. To this day he regrets not driving back to say I am sorry, it was stupid what we were argueing about. He said there is not a day that goes by that he doesn't think "What If".
Don't let this been your "What If", Christmas is a good time to do it,
a New Year, New hope, New You.
Romans 8:28 All things work together for the good, to those who love the lord.
Pray, ask God to first forgive you for feelings of hate, and then pray that he will help your friend to listen with an open heart and mind. Pray for the words to come to say, for peace and love to heal you, and your friendship.
God will never forsake you nor leave you, he loves you, wants you to be happy and blessed.
satan wants you to go around being angry, he wants to steal your joy, and he has been, you have been allowing him to steal all the goodness that you could be sharing in you.
he wants you to have a chip on your shoulder, to be mad at the world, well,...throw it back in his face, Love covers a multitude of sins, love is in all , and above all, Love is the greatest of these.
LOVe is from God...
anger and hate is from satan...
who are you allowing to control you?
your thoughts? your actions?
Pray and listen to hear Gods voice, he will guide you and lead you step by step, follow him and all this will be behind you.
Also When others see Gods love in us an projecting outward to them, they come to see God for who he really is.
Maybe she isn't saved? maybe you showing the forgiveness will allow her to come to Christ and see real love for the first time.
Even if this friendship is not meant to be,
you will have made your peace. Your life can
move on. You will have done your part, and that is all you can do...forgiveness is the nicest gift of all and alot of people are waiting for this gift at Christmas ...every day of the year.
Once this takes place, the floodgates will open for you, the burden will be lifted and all the other things in your life that have went wrong, you will want to correct them and make them right as well.
YOU Kelly have the power, it is in your heart, Your gift of forgiveness can change lives...lives all around you, God has given you his forgiveness, when you have asked, and you freely received, why should it be so hard for you to do the same for her?
(How can I ask God to forgive me, when I am not willing to forgive others?)
I can feel your hurt, I know you are hurting,
and wanting answers, a solution, you have ran in circles trying to get rid of it, to feel better.
Don't blame yourself, Life happens, satan wants you to blame yourself, he loves to get you depressed.You know why? then you can't be the loving person you are to yourself and every life that you touch.
You are not weak Kelly, you just love, and love is never a weakness, but a strength. Love binds, and makes things stronger. You are not wrong for loving and giving, don't let satan tell yourself that.
You were right to try to help her, seems to me she needs all the help she can get. You are gifted to being the wiser one.
When we take risks to love and give, sometimes it hurts, love is a sacrifice. But the rewards are greater.
When you see her, change your thoughts, be strong in them, Pray and ask God to clear your mind of these thoughts you have when looking at her, think of good things, there is a scripture in the bible that tells us to only speak and think about good things, think of the good times she was your friend, a time she forgave you, a time she helped you out.
Love and giving is beautiful, forgiveness has the word "give"...
forgiveness is never wrong.
I will pray for you, I wish you peace, joy, happiness,
most of all I wish you love~All the love you gave is coming back to you now...
See I am using a bad thing that happened in my
life to the good, to help you, and it helps me
to help you.
If I was there, I would
hug you both and pray with
But this is the best I can do...
Hugs I send,
Gods love be with you!
I love You!
"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take - but by the moments that take our breath away."
[This message has been edited by A Romantic Heart (11-13-2005 06:58 AM).]