Meg, You're one of the people on here whose posts and udates i look forward to. The words you use in your poetry in particular have always had such depth, emotionally, that it makes me feel weird inside that i imagine you being with someone who thinks love and feelings are stupid. Who can't show them.
If he feels/behaves like this towards you, he may, i'm not saying will, carry this on to the rest of his family members. I know this well, my dad is the coldest most emotionless man you could ever meet, to every member of his family. He disregards emotion, affection and respect for his wife, and just as much to me.
He may well be a good father to Freyja, and i hope he always will be, we don't know what goes on beyond what you've written, but he's not giving YOU anything near to what you need, let alone want.
It makes me want to die inside for you, because it seems i know the kind of man you're dealing with, down to every last detail you've described. (as i'm sure many people here also do.) Even the fact that he sleeps in a seperate bed just says it all. Emotionally inept. You could probably cry and scream in his face and he'd say nothing.
I have no shame in saying to you, don't put yourself through years of this, like my mother regrets so much now, infact, she's still there with him, desperate to be loved and touched, respected, to feel some kind of warmth. simple things, but impossible for people like them.
They never seem to thaw out. no matter how long you wait.
Freyja is gorgeous meg, love the new pictures! And so are you. You both deserve to be shown love, in the simplest of ways.
I hope that one day, however long it may be, that you make moves towards anything other than this limbo. Judging from your replies, its something you're considering.
And this bloke? Tell him one day. but after.
keep us posted meg, we care about you.