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littlewing
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25 posted 08-11-2005 10:49 PM       View Profile for littlewing   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for littlewing

I have to comment on Tima's post only because every single bit of it rings true.  

(Thanks, Tima - I kinda needed that myself)

Sooo true about your child seeing and experiencing your pain, they are MOST susceptible no matter how hard you try to hide it.

And Tima?  Take pride in the fact that the next woman is treated nicely, yes, I know, I am in the same boat BUT - I look at it this way - look what the presence of a good woman does - I mean, at least he has learned from the pain (sounds messed up, but I believe you know what I mean) even though I get mad and shake my head - I at least think to myself that being with me had taught him the right lessons he needed to learn, as well as the ones I learned myself.

In the end, if I had not left, my son would be seriously damaged today, not kidding.  And it was hard, so very very difficult but now?  I am proud of that struggle since.  Made me a stronger woman who will never ever take any nonsense ever again.

LeeJ
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26 posted 08-15-2005 10:46 AM       View Profile for LeeJ   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for LeeJ

I've come back to read this again, and have been brought to elevated heights at the wealth of care within these comments, not to mention wisdom...

Tina's comment was full of one of experience, adding...

Meg, just if you walk away, walk away with dignity, your head held high, you always must remember, to serve as an example to your child...you have a responsibility now...to not make yourself a victim, but in the same, do not act out of impulse...or need or desire, except to do what is right by everyone concerned.

with hope and prayers for all of you.
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27 posted 08-16-2005 01:07 AM       View Profile for Mysteria   Email Mysteria   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Mysteria

I have to admit, I am really wondering what you are doing about this Meg?   but in a caring way.
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28 posted 08-16-2005 02:39 AM       View Profile for Kaoru   Email Kaoru   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Kaoru

All the wrong things...

figures...
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29 posted 08-16-2005 09:12 PM       View Profile for Mysteria   Email Mysteria   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Mysteria

Well the great thing about making mistakes is we learn from them right?  Wishing you well and also wishing you love.
littlewing
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30 posted 08-17-2005 09:30 AM       View Profile for littlewing   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for littlewing

agreeing with Sharon.
Mistakes are (sometimes) good things.
It's how you learn.

The best teacher in life.
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31 posted 08-17-2005 05:46 PM       View Profile for serenity blaze   Email serenity blaze   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for serenity blaze

Hey you. First, have a hug.

And nope, I haven't been ignoring you--I have been ignoring my own version of this problem.

Without getting into my entire personal history, I'll just ask you to trust that I know and understand.

That said, I will say you have already gotten the best out of him that you will prolly ever see, and please also know that such a situation seldom evolves into something better.

Take the baby and run. You can do it on your own. In fact, you already are.

Maya Angelou said something (yeah, yeah, I heard this from my buddy OPRAH too )wise words I'd like to share and that is this:

We teach people how to treat us by showing them what we will accept.

The longer you wait, the more complicated it gets.

(Please don't grow up to be me, sweetie.)

Love you megs for Freyja
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32 posted 08-17-2005 05:55 PM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

May I ditto our serenity?

Too many friends here, Meghan, have been in your shoes, or know someone who has. A lot of experience has been poured out.

Sometimes, we just have to go with our gut.

Would you want Freyja to have someone like him?
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33 posted 08-17-2005 11:53 PM       View Profile for wranx   Email wranx   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for wranx

Its merely inertia, Meghan

(yeah, I know...easy for me to say...But I DO understand)

A body at rest, tends to stay at rest
A body in motion tends to keep on movin'

So very hard to start moving, though...But? once started, you're certain to go in a direction that'll be....kinder to you and Freyja.

Still wishing you and yours all the best

  

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34 posted 08-18-2005 04:14 AM       View Profile for Kaoru   Email Kaoru   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Kaoru

I've worked out some of the more major kinks, now for the rest. I got on a list for section 8 housing and now I'm going to a job education program so I can get one. I am making some strides for independence and hopefully they will work out.

Matters of the heart have gotten me very down, though. I'm too stubborn and can't deal at all with rejection. I feel very vulnerable and lonely. I cry all the time now and rarely want to eat. I figure maybe I need a therapist to help me deal with my inability to move on. I'm weak in that area.

It doesn't help that this guy gave me a false sense of love. He may or may not have lied and cheated me, but I wore my heart on my sleeve, and what guy wouldn't take advantage of that. I know that the only way I can deal is by opening up my communication lines with him and spilling my guts. Afterall, if he is not going to be a lover to me, he can be an awesome friend who is there to listen anytime I need him to.

I'm not used to feeling so much like a girl, I guess. I suppose writer's block doesn't help, that's how I always dealt with it, but now it's the real deal. Talking is something girls have to do in order to get over things, isn't it? I think it might help...

I really appreciate all the sound advice given to me here. It helps me to know that I've got a backbone in all of you. I love you all even when I feel as if my heart is a mangled mess..
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35 posted 08-18-2005 11:32 AM       View Profile for Cloud 9   Email Cloud 9   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Cloud 9

Serenity is so right....

I waited too long. And, yes, I was weak as well. I was very very scared of doing it on my own. But no matter what I could keep putting the kids in the middle. But then one day I just told him to move out and was able to get on a few programs just to help for a short time. Its been almost a year and I am still doing it on my own without any of his help. Keep busy and focus on your daughter.

"In the end, if I had not left, my son would be seriously damaged today, not kidding.  And it was hard, so very very difficult but now?  I am proud of that struggle since.  Made me a stronger woman who will never ever take any nonsense ever again. "

Very true...me too.

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36 posted 08-18-2005 03:08 PM       View Profile for LeeJ   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for LeeJ

megs, your one hell of a gal, there is no denying that...everyone here is so right on the money, and it won't help you to say, I know exactly where you are, cuz each relationship is different, but honey, Kari said a mouthful about your daughter...you must snap out of it and be strong for her, read what people here have said over and over, and know or address the fact that if you haven't known kindness and mature understanding love in your life, you will compromise and take what you can get in the form of any attention, which is what these type of guys thrive on.  

Darlin, I say this from experience...if you accept so little in your life for a companion, your little girl will follow suit...I know b/c I followed in my mother's shoes.  It was all I knew.  

May peace guide you with strong arms...and you will make mistakes, but you have the power to change things and make them right...YOU are you own best friend, and I promise you...you'll be fine if you do right by yourself and your daughter...and not allow the weakness of desire or self destruction to tug on your arm.  

I wish you all the best...you've got the best gift that any woman can have right there in front of you...your daughter

Hugs and my deepest thoughts.

Please let us know from time to time how your doing...and cheer up, cuz your a dynamite woman!  And woman have the strength to accomplish anything they put they're minds down to...if we want it bad enough, believe me.  Just look at all your sisters here and they're great care...friends like this are the greatest commodity in life...

Hugs
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37 posted 08-18-2005 03:54 PM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine

Meg? Check your email.
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38 posted 08-18-2005 11:08 PM       View Profile for JesusChristPose   Email JesusChristPose   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for JesusChristPose

"Please remedy my confusion
And thrust me back to the day
The silence of your seclusion
Brings night into all you say
Pull me down again
And guide me into pain"


~ I thought for sure you would comment on this... Not too many people can appreciate Mikael's lyrics and music.


"I have gone away. The bed is cold and empty. Trees bend their boughs toward the earth. And nighttime birds float as black faces."

littlewing
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39 posted 08-19-2005 09:18 AM       View Profile for littlewing   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for littlewing

I am so proud of you. I was 33?  before I realized a lot of what you already know.

Just remember this:

you will NEVER be alone.
Once you gave birth, you gained an angel for life.
THAT will keep you going.

Trust me.
It sucks, its hard, but it is so worth it.
 
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