megs, your one hell of a gal, there is no denying that...everyone here is so right on the money, and it won't help you to say, I know exactly where you are, cuz each relationship is different, but honey, Kari said a mouthful about your daughter...you must snap out of it and be strong for her, read what people here have said over and over, and know or address the fact that if you haven't known kindness and mature understanding love in your life, you will compromise and take what you can get in the form of any attention, which is what these type of guys thrive on.
Darlin, I say this from experience...if you accept so little in your life for a companion, your little girl will follow suit...I know b/c I followed in my mother's shoes. It was all I knew.
May peace guide you with strong arms...and you will make mistakes, but you have the power to change things and make them right...YOU are you own best friend, and I promise you...you'll be fine if you do right by yourself and your daughter...and not allow the weakness of desire or self destruction to tug on your arm.
I wish you all the best...you've got the best gift that any woman can have right there in front of you...your daughter
Hugs and my deepest thoughts.
Please let us know from time to time how your doing...and cheer up, cuz your a dynamite woman! And woman have the strength to accomplish anything they put they're minds down to...if we want it bad enough, believe me. Just look at all your sisters here and they're great care...friends like this are the greatest commodity in life...