I agree with Alicat, through experience, my son, was mildly jealous of his step-father (now my ex), but as time went on, they both learned to love and greatly respect each other. Adding, my ex had words to say about everyone, but never ever anything but respect for my son and they shared a great many quality times together, without mom. (smiles) Matter of fact, when we split, my son was hurting a great deal.
Maybe I was lucky, but really and truly believe, it is all in how the child is raised which dictates his actions...also believe, that only so much should be owed to the child in explaination, depending on his/her age, as that child has to understand, you are still the adult/parent.
I love children, and children would never stop me from persuing a possible future with their father, unless, there were problems...and I dated a man, who seemed very nice, but his daughter was extremely co-dependant, and taking meds for depression, etc...couldn't hold a job and was soon to move in with her father. She was 19 years old and he and I only had 3 dates...never told him it was b/c she was moving in, or she was a problem I just couldn't or wouldn't want to deal with. Perhaps I should have?
But if I met a man, with well behaved children, and we were in love, you can bet your sweet bipi, I'd jump at the chance to have children in my life again...yes indeedy!
This beside me is nothing more than the "man"
that’s screwing my mother.”
that sickens me...that the "child" would have so little respect...how utterly insulting, not to mention, I have to ask, where in the world did that attitude come from?
When you date someone, before you become intimate, you should look at their children, watch them, and view how they talk to their parents, how they behave, and the same with the person your interested in, how do they address their parents? With respect and great admiration, or with little disrespect...to me that would speak volumns about any relationship I might be considering.