Beneath the northern stars
I've always been taught that in marriage, the husband and wife are supposed to love each other first (second only to God, if you're religious). Then come the kids, the reasoning being that you don't spend the rest of your life with your kids, you spend it with your husband/wife. I know this doesn't mean that you can just always focus on your spouse and not your children, but rather that if you were asked to make a list of who is important in your life, your answer would be, "My spouse." Get what I'm saying? Last night, a friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend for two reasons: because she wanted to be involved in modeling and he didn't want her to, and because she thought that she should be more important than his son (this girl is not the mother of the child). I mean, he does have every right to do that if she's being selfish and didn't care about the baby (even though it isn't her child), but then why does he expect her to not do certain things for HIS sake? If he's expecting her to not be a model because he doesn't like it, isn't that expecting her to put him and his wishes first? And since he isn't putting her first, why should she do the same?
They way you live your life is up to you, but dying is NOT an option!!