Member Rara Avis
first, I agree with Kacy about a chronic problem, and Reb about at least they will get tested but it is not YOUR problem, even though it is, you know what I mean . . . please know this.
This happened with someone extremely close to me (several times)and all I can say is my heart was racing more than theirs, I believe, but somehow, by the grace of God, I just sat down with them on the floor and let them talk . . . I didn't say a word, I didn't suggest therapy, I didn't say anything because this is what they expect from me.
To be Miss Helpful.
I don't know what to suggest, I mean, after I got down to their level (the floor, literally) and showed them they don't need to be so frightened and that I was here to help them without even saying a word - it was ok after awhile and they are OK today.
All I can say is the only thing you can do is be yourself and don't push. Like you said, they have to help themselves, but we sure can show them we are not the enemy.
I am sure you have done all of that, but for me? I had not, I am usually zip-zap Ok now lets do this, you need this etc . . . and this time I just sat on the floor and shut my mouth.
Bless your heart and Karen?
With you there, your friend has already received so very much. It is not your guilt to carry, just please remember that. We are human, we do what we can do and God decides the rest.
(After all my blabbing, I re-read and you are right, it should all be acknowledged, you never know when it will be real, I mean even if it is just a hug or nodding your head or smiling.
Also, having been in the medical field so many years, see? I try to see this from a non-medical point of view . . . and when I did that?
You can only do what is already in your heart, you know what that is. And many prayers for your friend, that they see the gift of life and that that way out is not the answer . . . my candle is lit, K.
Be easy on yourself, I feel that tightness over here, Lady.