I don't know if I've got this right, but my understanding, or lack thereof, was the fact that the issue is....this man has an addiction to porn? Yes?
But also believe, that compatibility is essential and viable to any relationship...meaning, mental compatibility...you can't change people, so it might be wise to look for someone who thinks and feels the same way about issues, morals, values, retirement plans, high ended resturants like Friendly's...hehe, robbing a neighborhood store, and but of course, Dr. Phil.
Also, it's important to allow people their beliefs, no matter how trivial or stupid we may think them to be...you don't have to agree, but respect must be first and foremost....allowance with the understanding that each of us is on our own journey, and may not be as far along intellectually, as the next person...we all have our talents but they are never the same as the next person's. So we must be patient enough to consider that.
Lastly...I'm going to say this once more, not in debate and in complete respect....Chris, and all the rest of you guys, I thoroughly understand where your coming from...but...consider this, when you log onto that fav porn sight....well, what if the first photo that popped up was your daughter? I don't need anyone to reply, cuz frankly, I really don't care to know how you feel, just throwing the idea out there to think about...
I'm not a prud, and do consider myself conservative...I don't mean that from a political standpoint.
It's great reading and considering the views of others, from that we learn...but...in the same, condisention and aloof comments in return, to me, are from a lack of understanding, that we all need to grow, and perhaps will catch up....only through complete understanding and respect for the opinions of others, no matter how dumb or non-intellectual or dull they may seem.
and someday, I hope this world learns its not always about being right, sometimes, I believe, this day and age, people are more concerned about being right...then stepping back and considering?
Patience and allowance...respect enough for oneself, to allow another their flaws and still love them for it, although, remembering, any addiction is not a good thing?
Sincerely and quit fondly
[This message has been edited by LeeJ (04-08-2005 12:56 PM).]