I believe in gentle ways you two should be communicating this to each other. Our world teaches us about romantic love, two joining and becoming one, but says nothing about the after effects of such...the need for compatibility, mature understanding, giving as well as taking and allowing. Love is not controlling, but listening with open heart and mind...true love weathers hard times, it doesn't run away, and cares for the sacredness of another...in sickness and in health....true love is not a license for irresponsiblity, impolite digs or acting out like spoiled children b/c he/she doesn't totally agree...love is allowance, supportive and encouragement...it is not jealous nor does it run from person to person b/c something didn't work out with the last person. Love is loving oneself that they are willing to self examine...realizing the signficance for another to be successful, enlist in hobbies, giving another their space. Love is not about sex, but making love even when two people are not in bed...making love 24 hours a day....to each other and it doesn't expect but marvels when the other half wants to do something different and experience life...love is realizing you have choice, and nurtures the ideas of another, most people don't know how to care for love after they've earned it...I've known some very successful marriages in which there is compatibility, and willingness to try something new. Love is experiencing new ideas together, sharing thoughts, communications, and being mature enough to not take dissatisfactions and differences as a personal attack against ones character.
Love is hard times....sometimes...in which two people grow closer with the revolution of change...Mature understanding and awareness to not point fingers and blame, but caress and understand the significance of each others need to grow