The first comment should come from the father, I think, to be more influential. The second comment should not be said at all, I feel, because it does not need to be. Hope my comments do not offend.
That first comment kind of bothers me, too. I think that it is true sometimes, especially in some cultures, third world countries or the Middle East, maybe, but for the most part, for a woman, having a baby is the miracle of her life and that should be added to the comment if spoken....jo