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Skyfire 
since 2000-12-27
Posts 3381Riding 
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If this is better in the Alley, it's all good if it's moved, I just need to vent and cry and grrrr... ALL weekend he was nitpicking at EVERYBODY, and then he comes home today and starts in on me about a couple of things; no hello or anything, usually as soon as he comes into the house I go into my room, but I had thought that well, since we still have family up he wouldn't be a jerk, but I obviously was wrong. Sometimes I just wish he would go away and not come back, and I know it's horrible for me to think like that, but I'm 21 years old for pete's sake, I'm not 12. And I can't afford to move out, otherwise, believe me, I'd take my horse and go. He's a jerk to both me AND Mom again, he was so great after he came back from spending time with his brother, I'm just about at the point where I'm going to phone my uncle and ask him to talk to him or something, cause he's turned back to the way he was before. Until then I'll go back to my avoidance techniques because I don't feel like being a scapegoat for HIS problems. It's not MY fault his day didn't go the "right" way. And yet again... I'm never getting married. Sure as shootin' I'd end up with someone like HIM, and divorce costs too much. I just want to leave and not come back. EVER.  |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
We'll talk... If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. |
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Skyfire
since 2000-12-27
Posts 3381Riding |
phew. okay I'm ... sorta... over my lil hissy fit. I love him dearly, I dread the day when we have to bury him, cause he's my daddy. He's just... hard to deal with sometimes. But that's what makes him my dad, right? I'll just have to suck it up and deal with him and love him anyway  and then He created the horse... |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
I'm so glad we had this little talk! I feel much better now...  If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. |
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Kaoru
since 2003-06-07
Posts 3892where the wild flowers grow |
I've had problems with my father since I can remember.. I saw him for the first time in 4 years this past June.. It's amazing how father[figures] can be so important, yet in some cases, you're better off without them. Just recently, the man I'd been living with and calling my father, cheated on my mother and left with no forewarning. I try not to be bitter, but I've made it perfectly clear to my mother (who still has to do business with him as far as the house/land goes) that I want nothing to be said to him regarding myself or my child. I find it to be more disconcerting that both of the men that I'd once considered my father, left my mother in this way, and didn't even stop to think of the consequences it'd have on the "family", so to speak. It's almost like we were taken advantage of, once they got tired of the never ending supply of love we had to give, they left for someone else.. I can see why you'd avoid your dad, sometimes people in general are hard to deal with.. he'll never realize that you're an adult, you'll always be his child in his mind. He loves you and it's obvious because, at the very least, he has never left you... Though, I'm not trying to make light of your situation in any way, shape or form.. The best way to deal with things like that is to have a heart to heart.. I wish, so much, that I'd had that chance.. but some people are so stubborn. They'll never admit when they're wrong.. Good luck, I'm hoping that the problem is already solved somewhat, though.. Somehow I had a tantrum of my own. |
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littlewing Member Rara Avis
since 2003-03-02
Posts 9655New York |
hey . . my mother still does that and I am 33! *grin* One day we will (we will?) look back and admire them (ok) for all they have done. *smile* Sky. |
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Tequilia_Sunrise Senior Member
since 2003-02-19
Posts 612Lochalsh, Ontario, Canada |
when i had to move back home after college things were just like this, but i just figured i'd smile and nod even though i was screaming inside and well i live on my own now and i have a much better relationship with my parents because i didnt let out little diagreements get in the way when i lived at home. so my advie to you is to smile and nod! |
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LeeJ Member Patricius
since 2003-06-19
Posts 13296 |
Someday we'll all look back after our children have been raised, and they're gone and married...and we sit there reflecting, something we've said, an experience we've had...and all of a sudden SHOCK!!! Gosh Darn...I've turned into my parents?????? smiles and hugs |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
It's always something. *shaking my head* I wish I could say my husband was driving me crazy, but no, he makes me walk! WAKAWAKAWAKA (with a nod of respect -finally- to Rodney Dangerfield, for the line) Peace, lady  |
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Skyfire
since 2000-12-27
Posts 3381Riding |
Things are well between us again for a while now. Thanks for everything and then He created the horse... |
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