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kissa~rachelle
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0 posted 2004-02-18 10:23 PM


This was just a stupid rant, and so i decided to delete it. So jsut ignore this, and i appreciated all of your coments about it. Email me sometime AQUA. (txsblonde22@yahoo.com) If anyone else wants to, feel free.

[This message has been edited by kissa~rachelle (02-19-2004 11:59 PM).]

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1 posted 2004-02-19 01:45 AM


as i was reading your thread i had a smile on my face and to reply to your thread isnt easy. the reason is because even though u probably dont think anyone feels the way u do they actually do. i am 17 years old and i realize alot about life. more then parents or adults give me credit for. when i was reading your thread i relized u were a smart person. the reason how i know this is because u UNDER STAND whats going on. me personaly i think ur parents seem alittle strict and i cant give u a answer to solve your problem and i am sorry. i could also go on and on but i will stop. do u have aol instant messenger? or msn messenger? or even a e-mail? i think it would be nice to talk to someone about this sort of stuff. for some reason i dont feel comftorable talking to my friends about deep feelings so i think it would be easier to talk to someone u do not know.
nakdthoughts
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2 posted 2004-02-19 05:39 AM


I am reading you lately because I care about children and young adults...but the more I read of you the more I see "attitude" and I think you should stop and look at yourself and what you are doing or not doing in your life to cause everyone and everything around you to be so negative...believe me, the whole world cannot be wrong...there must be accountability for what you have done to  ground you that long..although you never mentioned what it is.

It must have been more than normal teenage  antics to be grounded for that length.

Rumors  are always being passed around in  high schools. Most will later on be found untrue.

Maybe you need to seek out a guidance counselor at school to help you through all these "problems" because yours seem to be never ending.

Bits and pieces on an online forum will not help you much except maybe  get some other teens who have been through tough times to  relate to you.  Your parents  haven't taken away your online privileges so you should be grateful for that...that would probably be my first punishment...because you should be spending more time on your studying rather than on here.

Just my opinion, although to you it may seem harsh...
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3 posted 2004-02-19 07:46 AM


You have two equations.  They both have two variables (unknowns).  Solve one equation for the value of X - It will still have an unknown (Y) in the answer.

Take that value of X and substitute it into the other equation where you find X.  Now you have an equation with only one unknown, Y.  Solve for Y.

Now you have a real value for Y - Take that value and substitute it into the original equation so that you can solve for X.  Now you have your solutions.

Example...
quote:

X + Y = 7
2X - 3Y = 4



Solve the first equation for X
X = 7 - Y

Substitute the value of X... (7 - Y) into the second equation where you see the X.

2(7 - Y) - 3Y = 4

Solve for Y

14 - 2Y - 3Y = 4
14 - 5Y = 4
14 = 4 + 5Y
14 - 4 = 5Y
10 = 5Y
Y = 2

Substitute the value of Y... (2) back into the original equation and solve.

X + 2 = 7
X = 7 - 2
X = 5

Your solution is: (5,2)

You can do this - It'll pass before you know it.  Your parents want the best for you.  Try to trust them.  And - study... And - write us some good poetry while you're grounded.  We'd love to see some of your good work...

[This message has been edited by Nan (02-22-2004 08:11 PM).]

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4 posted 2004-02-19 08:02 AM


it parents what do you expect?

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5 posted 2004-02-19 09:36 AM


the teenage years seemed so difficult.  Now I look back and see how easy I truly had it.  Yet still, I did more than you are doing now.  My parents expected me to be perfect, and although I wasn't, my lifestyle then makes what I go through now easier.  From the time I was 5 years old until I was 11 years old, I practiced my violin one hour a day.  From the age of 11 until I was 14, two hours a day.  Then, from the age of 14-18 I practiced 4 hrs a day.  Because of my other duties, this meant I got up at 4 a.m.  I then went to school (which was Private, so I feel it was more difficult), was in extra curricular activities and did many many chores.  I also went to church 3 times a week and was involved in activities there.

Dang, I didn't have a computer, a tv or radio in my room...when I got grounded, I was not allowed to leave my room, was given "homework" (my mom was a teacher), was abused, oh gosh I could go on...

There very last thing that I would have been able to even THINK about, if we'd had it, would be the internet...so be grateful for every little thing that you have - cause, in reality, it really could be worse.

If you are having trouble with algebra, get help NOW.  If you don't feel you are being seen or heard, make yourself known.  Do it the right way though.  Go to your mom, get a classmate's help, go to your teacher AFTER class, go to the principal...go online...there are a million things to do.  You just have to make extra effort.

Feel free to e-mail me...and good luck :-) Time will fly.

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6 posted 2004-02-19 10:13 AM


hi kissa~rachelle,
everyone else said it pretty much..and everyone is trying to show you "by comparison" how you may have it luckier than some.
but, we know that you feel this is an important issue because you are living it, and we all have lived it and grown up..so on..

School is emotionally draining, self esteem suffers when your peer group is behaving in a way that is offensive (ie starting rumours about you). it is hard to concentrate when you feel outcasted or "less than best". the most important thing you can do is prove to YOURSELF that you are exactly the person you want to be. Tell yourself that you are just as good as everyone else and that even though you make mistakes, you are willing to accept the consequences in a mature manner...and give respect to others as well as demand respect for yourself.

there is nothing more powerful than a person who is sure of themselves and are assertive.
you dont  have to just "sit back" and allow people to make you feel crappy....learn to look people in the eye and tell them that you think what they have to say is irrevelant if all they want to do is tear you down.

as far as  your parents are concerned, im a parent myself and i make mistakes...we all do. but we do these things out of love and fear. they want to see you take your study seriously, which will eventually lead you to living a better quality of life. Its difficult, i know, ive been there....but...
what is more important in the long run: a weekend out hanging with friends or a lifetime of knowledge (good jobs, great travels,  good friends who dont start rumours ect)?

All in all, you ultimately make the choice...
and in the end, you will have to be held accountable, not parents and schoolmates, just YOU!

Can you look yourself in the mirror? Because the person you see there is the only one you will ever be able to control or change.

I hope you find your way...  

Susan Caldwell
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7 posted 2004-02-19 01:13 PM


  Nan, that was impressive!! I had forgotten until I saw it!!


Sudhir Iyer
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8 posted 2004-02-19 01:30 PM


OK, I admit it I come from (almost) another world ... well another part of this one anyway...

So what does being "grounded" mean?

let me know...

regards
sudhir

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9 posted 2004-02-19 02:09 PM


Grounded = Restricted to Barracks, usually accompanied with a loss of privileges (like use of the phone or Internet)

Unfortunately, by itself, this rarely accomplishes much because it's typically perceived as punishment rather than as a consequence of one's one actions. Too often, it's "their fault" instead of "my responsibility," so the only thing we teach is to avoid punishment (which is quickly translated into avoid getting caught).

kissa~rachelle
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10 posted 2004-02-19 02:24 PM


Thanks you guys for all your comments. Thanks for the quik math lesson too! It actually looked understandable.
~Vampire Kisses  

I want a relationship i can finally sink my teeth into.~ Alexander Sterling

kissa~rachelle
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11 posted 2004-02-19 02:27 PM


Oh, and my e-mail, if you want to email me is Jhartnettchic14@yahoo.com. Its really old, Ive had it forever. I might nbe changing it soon. If I do i will let you know. It should also be on my profile.
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I want a relationship i can finally sink my teeth into.~ Alexander Sterling

Sudhir Iyer
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12 posted 2004-02-19 03:21 PM


Thanks Ron...

So this means, I was grounded all my childhood... We didn't have a telephone line until, I was 21 or 22, of course internet came around when I was already working and even that was restricted use only.

Yes, I remember we had a black and white TV, I rarely went to watch movies at the cinema, and I almost never watched any movies or soaps at home. Yes, cartoons I used to watch for a restricted 2 hours each sunday and live sports: mainly football, tennis and cricket. Cricket being an all day game, I could only watch highlights or parts when the game got interesting...

Well, our "punishments" were like no outdoor games allowed today! I used to play some sport or the other for at least an hour each evening. It used to be difficult not to play outside, so I behaved almost all the time. A prank or two a year was about all I had licence for.

I still partake in outdoor activities, sports, travel etc. and I learnt to read books... lots of them, in fact.

So being grounded all the time was not so bad, I would say. Those days the little pleasures involved those few hours when there were no restriction

well... sorry I claimed all your bandwidth, but memories, darn ... oops .....   

Regards to all
Sudhir
and by the way, I hardly even had pocket money... so I never had to explain my mom, what I did with it

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13 posted 2004-02-20 11:29 AM


My mother's idea of grounding me (way back when) was to sit in my room, alone, no tv, no radio, (gasp) no stereo and with a Webster's Dictionary and I had to be able to spell and define 10 new words per day. That's on top of homework and chores. After awhile the written word became fun and was no longer a "punishment".
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