I wholeheartidly agree with the comment above me...adding that there are many aspects, emotions to love...way to many people forget to get to know the person first, as a friend...exploring if there is mental compatiblity, not to mention, the same goals...likes, dislikes, music, intelligence...if there is not...what is to hold the relationship together? I mean...would you continue to befriend someone who would lie to you, not stand beside you or be there for you if you were ill? Does this person value life...and love so much so that this person would allow you your independence and to persue your goals or try to stagnate you and sabatoge any positivity you possess, due to their own lack of confidence....and yes, if someone possesses confidence in themselves, a sense of others beyond their own, and they really value life, possessing a sense of humor...common sense, morals, and function well with other people, how could you help not falling in love with them? Making it a lifetime committment if both agree?
Just my two cents? Good thoughts to ponder, thank you for writing and sharing.