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A Romantic Heart
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Forever In Your Heart

0 posted 2004-01-11 03:33 AM


After some thought, and reading some of the replys I thought it was in best interest to remove the previous post here....

Being so open with poetry, love poetry between Goldenrose and I. I thought it was ok to let everyone know what has happened for future post.


I consider each and everyone of you friends here at PIP and sharing my feelings and heart is what we do best. Mainly my goal was to inform, and to seek advice. My intentions were nothing else but this.

Since July of 2003, Goldenrose and I have shared openly our poetry of love to eachother, so with that coming to an end I thought it to be best to also share the ending and reasons why.

Thanks for your input, your wishes and concern, and your hugs.

All comments have been insightful and helped me to see clearly.

My heart is warmed in knowing I can share feelings so freely in a place like this, during a time like this.

All of my love and friendship to each of you..may you have a great new year!

Sincerely,,
~ARH


[This message has been edited by A Romantic Heart (01-12-2004 01:36 AM).]

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passing shadows
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displaced
1 posted 2004-01-11 04:51 AM


well ain't that something?

A month after the horrific event of September 11, I had the nerve to board a plane to the nation's capitol, Washington DC. I flew into Dulles International on October 19. There was tight security and planes flying around the Regan Airport to make sure no flights were taken off course...there were police and military everywhere...there were US Marshalls on the planes...wherever you looked, there were FBI, Secret Service, CIA, and whatever else you could think of...

I really wasn't afraid at all. Not one bit. I am more afraid of love than of travel in the US or across the world.

The reasoning behind the end doesn't sit well with me.

A Romantic Heart
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Forever In Your Heart
2 posted 2004-01-11 05:28 AM


Thanks Dixie,
  

I agree....

Open your eyes, open your mind, open your heart, let me come in and show you love.....~ARH

Rick
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since 2001-06-21
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Victoria, Australia
3 posted 2004-01-11 06:46 AM


Search earth to heaven, sounds like travel to me, sorry ARH, but the end does not sit well with me either, some other reason. His loss!!

Sincerely
Rick

A Romantic Heart
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Forever In Your Heart
4 posted 2004-01-11 06:55 AM


Thanks Rick,

    For your support!

~ARH

Open your eyes, open your mind, open your heart, let me come in and show you love.....~ARH

serenity blaze
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5 posted 2004-01-11 07:13 AM


I confess I couldn't read your entire post--it was a bit painfully personal to read, but I have gathered enough to know you are in need of hugs, so I can offer that...

find your peace?


A Romantic Heart
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6 posted 2004-01-11 07:18 AM


Thanks Serenity I have peace now with hugs and love from friends like you!

hugs
~ARH

Open your eyes, open your mind, open your heart, let me come in and show you love.....~ARH

McLean
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state of marital bliss
7 posted 2004-01-11 07:33 AM


I'm completely an outsider, Romantic Heart, and know nothing of this person and you.  I want you to know what a load of crock it seems to me, if this is a for real situation.  I say that, not to be mean, but because it seems so fictitious to me, the reason behind the departure from your relationship.

Didn't Dr. Phil, umm, I mean "Phil", say he'd travel to mystical places and send you pictures?  Are these mystical places in his neighborhood, or might they require journey beyond use of his automobile or camel?  

My husband and I met via Matchmaker.com.  I loved him before I ever saw him, and would have traveled extensively to get to him.  Fortunately for me, he was two block away...but regardless of that fact, nothing could have stopped our meeting.  

I think the person who wrote you this letter is a very weak person, and a liar.  There has to be more to it than fear of flying due to terrorism.  And if there isn't, he definitely wasn't worth meeting.  He's too selfish to give himself completely to another.

With this, I wish you peace, and applaud your writing, signifying a funeral.  You will resurrect that heart when you find someone worthy of it!

McLean

A Romantic Heart
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Forever In Your Heart
8 posted 2004-01-11 07:38 AM


Thank you Mclean for your helpful insight,

your support and friendship is appreciated!

~ARH

Open your eyes, open your mind, open your heart, let me come in and show you love.....~ARH

Poet deVine
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Hurricane Alley
9 posted 2004-01-11 08:23 AM




First, and please no offense!, do you think it's ok to post his email here? Is this considered an invasion of privacy? I don't know what I'm saying...but I too was uncomfortable reading this. I sure wouldn't want a thousand strangers reading a letter I wrote full of pain.

Second, I am going on holiday this year, maybe i will visit magical places associated and mystical places and email and tell you about them" Um...he can go on holiday but can't get on a plane to see you? Something's fishy here..

Thirdly, it's painful to lose someone you love, even if you've never met them. Take care and take it one step at a time.

Miah
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10 posted 2004-01-11 10:56 AM


I don't know you, and can only go on what was posted.  I understand why you posted something so personal, this place is so warm and inviting.

How far away does this man live? I could see if he lived In Iraq, and was worried to fly. but millions of people fly every day across country.  but, it seems like a deep fear with him, and a lot of people feel that way about flying these days.  I know it must be hard, but you can take it as a sign to move on in your life.  I am sure you have a lot to offer someone and it shouldn't be wasted on a person that no longers wants to be apart of it. I wish you the best of luck! hugs..

nakdthoughts
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Between the Lines
11 posted 2004-01-11 11:51 AM


just my take on this:

It's one thing to fly from America to Europe or further..it's another to fly from there to here with the fear of terrorists(which is real and has delayed many flights)

Another thing for those who don't understand, they have longer vacations or "holiday" in Europe and other countries than we do here and taking a holiday or vacation does not always mean they are going far away..it means they are off from work. Also "mystical and magical" to me and from reading your poems, means he will be thinking of you and of places that may have been in your shared dreams.

I think there is always more behind the scenes than what we are reading here and although I too, feel your sorrow and anguish over  a " break up" I think his email was done tactfully by him and with much love.

Maybe you should have suggested you going there to see him..and have him pay your way, if you are not afraid to fly at this time.

I enjoyed your poetry as I always have, but I think to have posted this and to have all these other poets condemning a man for having "loved you" in the open... the best he knew how, is not a fair thing to do.

And since he no longer has an email available on here..I am posting this so if he reads you as he said he will, he will also know that all do not feel the same here.

Wishing each of you the best, during a hurtful time,

Maureen

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12 posted 2004-01-11 12:02 PM


ARH, I am only writing this because I can just magine how I would be feeling if this was happening to me with Gary.

As you know from my poems, Gary and I have a long distance relationship. It is different in that we do see each other, but still we aren't together all the time. When we are apart, we communicate through letters and phone calls. He doesn't have a computer, so we don't communicate on the internet.

I do know from experience that whenever a couple has a long-distance relationship, they do reveal more of their inner thoughts and feelings to each other. This is the first relationship that I have had like this, so I know this is true. I honestly believe that Gary and I know more about each other than we ever have anyone else, because we "talk" more. Because of this, I do believe if I were to get a letter from him like the one you got from Phil, I could tell if it was true or not. Inside your heart is the answer, sweet lady.

I will say, that if I ever were to get a letter like this from Gary, that would be the end of us, although I love him with all my heart. If both people in a relationship don't have the strength to make it work, then it can't be done. Life is too short.

I wish you the best, ARH, and Phil too. It had to have been very difficult for him to write this to you. From his poems and this letter, he seems to truly love you.
Heart hugs to you both,  
Ethel

Opeth
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The Ravines
13 posted 2004-01-11 01:26 PM


Should a person publicly post an e-mail received from another person? I guess the answer is up to each individual in conjunction with the rules of the forum.

Personally, I would never do such a thing.

I couldn't keep myself from replying to what I just read - a lack of self-control, for sure.

However, since you decided to put your privat life on display, it is now open for comment - even comments that may be not what you expect.

This letter is a crock. If a person loves another and then continues to talk about giving up that love out of fear of an act of terrorism, but then continue about traveling to exotic lands - I would take that with a grain of salt. Not only that, at the very end of letter, all of a sudden, a justification of love is provided by relating the love to death of a father.

In between, the reader reads how proud the letter writer will continue to be of his lost love's writings - p-lease. Reading that part of the letter brought upon me a feeling of queaziness.

Upon reading this letter, there is no doubt in my mind that the person won't come to see you for a reason yet unveiled - Two  possibilities are that he is married or that he is not who he says he is.

My advice to you - Forget this dud. You would be better off without him. Get up and get out there and find your love - your true love. Sure, friendships and romance develop on the Internet, and that is a good thing, however what happened to you is more likely the outcome in these type of relationships.  

I don't know you, but I can empathize - and I wish you nothing but the best in your life.

GG
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Lost in thought
14 posted 2004-01-11 01:31 PM


Just after I turned fifteen I boarded a plane alone and traveled halfway across the country to 'meet' someone I loved... not recommending this, but just saying this is what love did for me...

On the other hand, he did seem to love you alot, and always speak highly of you. I think in your heart you know what the truth is better then any of us can...

Take care of yourself, this must be hard...

Always, Alyssa

He was a man of sorrows
...I am a girl of tears.

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