ARH, I am only writing this because I can just magine how I would be feeling if this was happening to me with Gary.
As you know from my poems, Gary and I have a long distance relationship. It is different in that we do see each other, but still we aren't together all the time. When we are apart, we communicate through letters and phone calls. He doesn't have a computer, so we don't communicate on the internet.
I do know from experience that whenever a couple has a long-distance relationship, they do reveal more of their inner thoughts and feelings to each other. This is the first relationship that I have had like this, so I know this is true. I honestly believe that Gary and I know more about each other than we ever have anyone else, because we "talk" more. Because of this, I do believe if I were to get a letter from him like the one you got from Phil, I could tell if it was true or not. Inside your heart is the answer, sweet lady.
I will say, that if I ever were to get a letter like this from Gary, that would be the end of us, although I love him with all my heart. If both people in a relationship don't have the strength to make it work, then it can't be done. Life is too short.
I wish you the best, ARH, and Phil too. It had to have been very difficult for him to write this to you. From his poems and this letter, he seems to truly love you.
Heart hugs to you both,