Member Rara Avis
But I am fully cogniznt of the fact that the same measuring stick is not used for all.
It's always difficult to be perfectly fair when personalities are involved, but it's often even more difficult to avoid the appearance of unfairness.
Not all forum business is conducted in open forums, Marge. And the final outcome of an incident is as much dependent on reactions as on anything I might say or do.
Some people, even when they vehemently disagree with me, will weigh their response and take whatever time they need to remain civil. They and I might never be able to agree, but we WILL resolve our differences amicably (and usually quietly), and I will often walk away from the incident with even greater respect for them.
Others, unfortunately, choose to respond with only anger. Bad situations quickly become worse situations, as they dig themselves into deeper and deeper holes. It's sad when a small problem escalates into a big one. But that's a choice each person makes for themselves.
Marge, I know that you and others can only judge by what you can see. But very rarely do you see everything.