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WinterWren
Senior Member

since 2002-12-01

Posts 1044
...Coming to

0 posted 2003-01-22 11:56 PM

So here's the story. I met a guy in October, over the internet. Yeah. Anyway we've been going through alot of stuff together since we first met, mostly he's just had alot of bad stuff happen to him lately and I guess I helped.
But we've been talking off and on for 4 months now, and we like each other. But that's why Im telling you all this, it's kinda changed now to be just, HE likes me.
We've never met in person, we live too far away from each other for that. I used to like him back, ALOT. And that kinda changed off and on sometimes I'd like him alot then we wouldn't talk for awhile and I'd be like "well I don't like him that much."
Then we'd talk again and I'd be thinking how great he is! But lately I haven't been thinking I like him like that, and we've even talked recently.
Im so confused!! Guys, you can't live with 'em you can't live without 'em!
Anyway I don't know what I should do, I feel just horrible and terrible and awful and evil for not liking him the same as I used to!
Should I just say goodbye to him now, before he starts liking me even more?? Or should I hold on longer and see if my feelings change AGAIN!!??
*starts ripping hair out in agitation*

WinterWren
"I want you to believe in life. Will you find out who you are too late, to change?" -Dishwalla-

nakdthoughts
Member Laureate

since 2000-10-29

Posts 19200
Between the Lines

1 posted 2003-01-23 10:58 AM

Since no one else has replied I thought I would give it a try.

First of all I am sure I will ruffle a few feathers..but  nothing is "real" until you have met in person.(not saying that you should, and if you do it should be in an open place amongst other people and not in your home or his)

But I believe that the first thing on line that happens is you become infatuated with someone by their words and/or  responses to you. But you have to remember this, the majority  who spend a lot of time on here do it because they  can't in real, are having relationship difficulties, marriages dissolving  or have a disability keeping them from being out there.

Like I said, I will upset some by saying this. But I am including myself  as one of those who found this as a means to release my hurt, dismay, anger...and then began to  see on forums that people could interact
and I discovered poetry.
I have made many friends and have met them in real.
On here we can wear masks, say and react differently than we might in person.
So take the relationship as a friendship. Don' feel guilty, but let him know..or  respond to him less, if that is easier for you to do. But make some real relationships off of here..that is where the real living is.

Maureen

Opeth
Senior Member

since 2001-12-13

Posts 1543
The Ravines

2 posted 2003-01-23 11:36 AM

What a well thought reply that was. Bravo!

I concur.

WinterWren
Senior Member

since 2002-12-01

Posts 1044
...Coming to

3 posted 2003-01-23 12:07 PM

Thank you for your advice, it is greatly apprecitated.

WinterWren
"I want you to believe in life. Will you find out who you are too late, to change?" -Dishwalla-

quietlydying

Senior Member

since 2001-06-10

Posts 935
the wonderful land of oz

4 posted 2003-01-23 04:44 PM

what's the point if you don't even live in the same province?

oh wait, there is none.

/jen/

'Christianity is the complete negation of common sense and sound reason.'
-- Mikhail Bakunin

WinterWren
Senior Member

since 2002-12-01

Posts 1044
...Coming to

5 posted 2003-01-23 05:47 PM

We had already relsoved that problem.

WinterWren
"I want you to believe in life. Will you find out who you are too late, to change?" -Dishwalla-

quietlydying

Senior Member

since 2001-06-10

Posts 935
the wonderful land of oz

6 posted 2003-01-23 11:01 PM

what problem?

::shakes her head::

i think you missed the point completely.

/jen/

'Christianity is the complete negation of common sense and sound reason.'
-- Mikhail Bakunin

Ron

Administrator

Member Rara Avis

since 1999-05-19

Posts 8669
Michigan, US

7 posted 2003-01-23 11:50 PM

Are you surprised by that, Jen? Lately, many of your posts have been sarcastic or ironic barbs, usually tinged with hints of thinly cloaked superiority. If you've got something helpful to add, by all means, say it. Unkind one-liners usually only work for standup comedians.

quietlydying

Senior Member

since 2001-06-10

Posts 935
the wonderful land of oz

8 posted 2003-01-26 09:23 PM

because i'm a fraud. plain and simple.

i'm no better than joe nobody in trailer fifteen over by the downs.

besides, nothing i say holds any vaule anyways. so whatever.

/jen/

'Christianity is the complete negation of common sense and sound reason.'
-- Mikhail Bakunin

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