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quietlydying
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0 posted 11-14-2002 06:16 PM       View Profile for quietlydying   Email quietlydying   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for quietlydying

i was at the gym today [i just got home] and i ran into three people i knew from high school.

i had a very good chat with the first two and will probably be getting toghether with them.  

however, brenna and i started talking while on the elipticals and she said something that really threw me aback.  i found out that her dad was in the hospital.  it just sort of snaked it's way into the coversation [because of my job, i work at the same one he's in] and so i asked why.  he has pancreatic cancer.  i asked her if he would be ok, and she couldn't even give me a clear answer.  

:: sigh ::  i'm in complete shock.  i don't know what to say or think or whatnot.  her little brother is still in junior high.

oh i don't even know what to think.  

we've known eachother for years, however we were never really that close.  just always on a good note with eachother.

...

/jen/


i'm so bitterly disappointed.  betty, i think it's time you leave now.


[This message has been edited by quietlydying (11-14-2002 11:22 PM).]

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1 posted 11-14-2002 07:19 PM       View Profile for nakdthoughts   Email nakdthoughts   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for nakdthoughts

there isn't much you can say or do but offer your time and ear if she needs someone to talk to. Pancreatic cancer is not easily cured, if it can be at all...I have had  two friends  slightly older than me pass away within 6 months of the diagnosis. Sometimes even  opening up to explore causes it to spread faster so many times, they just can't do anything but make the patient comfortable.

It's hard when you are young to experience this, but we all go through it just at different stages of our lives.

Think of the good times with her and just be there as a friend.
hugssss
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2 posted 11-14-2002 07:37 PM       View Profile for Sunshine   Email Sunshine   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Sunshine's Home Page   View IP for Sunshine


Just drop her a line or write her a note, let her know you're there for her, and then be there when she goes through the hurt and the anger.  If you had met her father a few times, visit him at the hospital.  Your friend will remember these kindnesses and they will keep her from feeling alone.

Meanwhile, we'll add the family to our prayer chain...
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3 posted 11-14-2002 08:46 PM       View Profile for quietlydying   Email quietlydying   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for quietlydying

i just talked to an rn who's worked with tons of cases of pancreatic cancer.  she's never seen a single case live.

he's going to die.

and now my nephew was just taken to the hospital with a head injury that happened over four hours ago at daycare.

he'll be three in february.

:: sigh ::

/jen/

i'm so bitterly disappointed.  betty, i think it's time you leave now.

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and?

don't forget to take care of YOU...

Hugs.
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5 posted 11-14-2002 10:28 PM       View Profile for Greeneyes   Email Greeneyes   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Greeneyes

you really cant say anything to that....you just need to reasure her hopefully everything will be alright with her dad, and tell her you will be there for her if needed.....what a sad time, I wish you the best....thoughts and prayers for you to offer her and yourself peace......hugsss


Lauren~

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Jen...I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's dad.
It certainly is a shock when things like that
happen to people we know and care about.
It's a very helpless feeling, as well, to
not be able to do much, but as the others have
said, you can help just by being a friend.

I hope that your nephew is ok.  Head injuries
are a scary thing, and I know how much you love him.
Let us know how he's doing, okay?
He and your family, as well as your friend's
family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

If you want/need to talk, you know I'm here.
Big hugs to you, Jen.  Take care of you.
~Vicky

[This message has been edited by vlraynes (11-15-2002 12:07 AM).]

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Jen?
Continue, if you can, to give your friend support. She (her dad, and her whole family)is undergoing something, no one should have to.

Pancreatic, is a very evil and aggessive cancer. Two people dear to me have succumbed to it.

Yet, there is always hope.

Ed
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8 posted 11-15-2002 11:24 AM       View Profile for quietlydying   Email quietlydying   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for quietlydying

my nephew will be ok.

:: whew ::

i'm trying to block out everything else.

:: shrugs ::

whatever works.

/jen/

i'm so bitterly disappointed.  betty, i think it's time you leave now.

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9 posted 11-16-2002 02:31 PM       View Profile for majnu   Email majnu   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for majnu

its really a punch in the gut when you realize that death happens. you here about it, see it on TV, and read about it, but the first time it hits home. Yep its hard.

-majnu
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