Member Rara Avis
well - as Mike alluded, thin people can be beautiful as well... but what about the people who don't match, as they presumably do - the ideal shown in popular media? as said above (more than once, i believe) they are hated... is that any better, really, than not being liked because you don't fit this ideal? you say beauty is on the inside, then judge someone in a negative fashion because they are "beautiful?" that seems oxymoronic to me, not to mention a tad bit hypocritical.
a second point of view - thin people, athletic people, et al: through their appearance, they can show that they care how they look, and are willing to put the time, effort, and sacrifice required to keep their bodies in shape. some don't do it properly, but tell me that eating poorly is any better than eating too much, and i'll call you wrong.
what i see, isn't that "big" people think they should be considered beautiful as well (because, i agree, they certainly can be) but instead, often use the fact that they don't conform to a societal ideal as an excuse to not focus on keeping in shape. truthfully, from a guy who prefers slimmer women (though i've been with those who aren't as well, all beautiful people inside and out): in a woman who is slender, i see someone who not only cares about her appearance, but allows it to show. she is probably in better health than someone who is considerably overweight, and will also probably be able to keep up with me when i am active, where a larger person probably couldn't.
i think the ideal runs to slimmer women (though i agree that really thin is something i find no more attractive than really big) because of these reasons.
besides, it's all relative, right? i don't hear women saying "man, Chris Farley is hot!" nope, i hear y'all saying "Van Diesel is a babe!" - so, my op, step back and take a look at yourself, your actions, and expectations, before you start blaming society for something that you do as well.
FWIW: when i use the word "you" in this, i use it as a collective term and not directed at any individuals.