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25 posted 08-12-2002 07:32 AM       View Profile for secretlife   Email secretlife   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for secretlife

That feelings we can't imagine it, before being in it...and if we test it, we will be living in another planet...The lovers planet...and u will know what I mean if u test the love very well ...........
about if u can love urself??
well, I think its difficult for me,,that all I can say...
Hope is response well..

(easy come,,Easy go)

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26 posted 08-12-2002 09:16 PM       View Profile for Dark Enchantress   Email Dark Enchantress   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Dark Enchantress's Home Page   View IP for Dark Enchantress

"Do you ever find it hard to love?"

Sometimes the concept is totally beyond me that I can't care that I don't know how to love.

You see, years ago I was desperately in love with this guy to the point of just utter obsession. We had a bond that no one could touch and without question it was everything and the only thing that we ever had or needed. When I lost him.. I was suicidal for an entire month. It sounds silly.. I know.. but that's just how I felt. However.. I got over it.. over time.. I was myself.. stronger, smarter.. self-sufficent. So after all of this that I had endured and survived.. I found it hard to love and committ myself to anyone. 1) because I felt like nothing and no one could be depended upon as being lasting and 2) because I knew that I didn't NEED anyone... so it's difficult to love someone deeply.. when you keep thinking "but if it ends its no big deal".

I always have one foot out the door. I've been with my current boyfriend for 2 years.. we've made progress.. but..

"I've heard told many times that in order to love others, you must love yourself. So do you sometimes find it hard to love yourself?"

I used to find it VERY difficult to love myself. I thought I was worthless to everyone and like a death sentence to any man who might fall for me. I'm not 100% "I'm a great girlfriend" but I know that I'm a good person and I have a lot to offer. Actually I find myself being very self indulged, which can make it difficult to care about someone else's interests.. especially if they conflict with my own.

"And if so, how do you get over the hump to love again?"

I won't live a life where the foundation is fear. I will feel pain, but I will not become pain. I'm not a victim. Simple as that. I guess that's how I can kick my own ass into doing whatever I feel I need to do.

"And what is love?"

I think that there is many different types of love. Have you ever read "Wuthering Heights" by Emily Bronte? Good example. I just believe that if you believe in love and you're willing to sacrifice your fears and your doubts then you can feel love. I think the reason people have so much difficulty with love is because they spend all their time trying to master it.. to control it. You can't. You simply can't. Love is too wild. It's too untame. So in a sense.. to be love.. you have to be wild too. Wild in the sense of just letting go.. probably the hardest thing to do of all.. to just let it be what it is..

Of course this is all just my opinion. I base it on my experiences.. either personal or from what I've observed.. I hope I gave you something worth reading.

I'm married to Mr.Metaphor. We make love everyday.

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27 posted 08-13-2002 12:43 AM       View Profile for Alexia   Email Alexia   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Alexia

Maybe that's why I've never really been in love.
I don't think I really love myself yuh know? I mean i've had alot of boyfriends and some have lasted awhile, I mean i've liked them alot just never really loved any of them. hmm . I dont think i'm worth anything, for someone to fall in love with me. Ok, it's kinda hard to explain how I feel so oh well

*Love might not make the world go round but it's what makes the ride worth while*

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28 posted 08-19-2002 05:24 PM       View Profile for bsquirrel   Email bsquirrel   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for bsquirrel

Thanks for your replies, all. This is some good discussion.
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29 posted 08-20-2002 05:38 AM       View Profile for Paul Wilson   Email Paul Wilson   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Paul Wilson

bsquirrel... To me Love simply put is sharing with each other and giving more than you expect to receive...Paul
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30 posted 08-20-2002 11:10 AM       View Profile for Anvrill   Email Anvrill   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit Anvrill's Home Page   View IP for Anvrill

I don't think I can quite go with your definition, Paul.... Because I don't love all my friends, thankyouverymuch. It is sort of a bit selfless for normal friendships, but I think I sometimes have ulterior motives, I just never follow 'em through.


Anyway, you will find that whilst in love, you may have to apologize for things that are in your own nature... Especially if that nature is self-destructive.


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31 posted 08-20-2002 09:33 PM       View Profile for catalinamoon   Email catalinamoon   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems   Click to visit catalinamoon's Home Page   View IP for catalinamoon

Ya know,I think love is different for everyone. With me, I fnd it easy to happen, hard to hold on to. I usually love him more than me,which is never helpful. And my heart is in so many pieces now, I don't know if it will ever get over it eough to all the way love someone new. Seems unlikely.
I like the colored stones too, I have to agree, it is a great description. If I were colored stones, they would be mostly black, with just the rare red one poking out.
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32 posted 08-21-2002 12:56 PM       View Profile for bsquirrel   Email bsquirrel   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for bsquirrel

You need to write in Dark more, Sandra. Thanks for sharin' your ideas, and also for the rainbow bridge website.

And thanks all, for keeping this dialogue going. When I have more time, I'm going to try and respond to everyone individually again.
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33 posted 08-21-2002 05:41 PM       View Profile for brian madden   Email brian madden   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for brian madden

I am afraid to love myself, my parents told me that it would make me go blind.
seriously I don't know,

here's a quote I like though
"Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition.

Alexander Smith"

The sum of the angles of that rectangle is too monstrous to contemplate!

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34 posted 08-22-2002 05:16 AM       View Profile for MidnightSon   Email MidnightSon   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for MidnightSon

i love myself. to the point of vanity....but no one really agrees with me, so i find it hard to stay in good spirits, ya know?

i've fallen in love only three times. the third is just now starting to happen. i know because i'm deathly afraid to let it happen. because it never works out. (she DOES live in another state, but to hell with details....) and it's always easy to fall, but never so easy to stand back up, even if someone is there to hold on to.

getting over the hump? it's like being drunk. only time can help. coffee, asprin, jumping jacks, loud music, and sleep may help... but they won't do it. you wake up everyday and it hurts a little less, and one day you wake up and it don't hurt at all.
and like they say in Swingers, you miss the pain sometimes. for the same reason you miss the object of your affection. cause you live with it for that long.
but somewhere in the midst ofthat you find someone new, and the vicious circle begins again.

what is's beenn described many different ways, but i gotta assume that it feels the same in all of us.
it's kinda like peeing in you dreams... you may not know if it's real or not, but it's there nonetheless, sneaking up on you. and it's warming you and stinking you all at once.

it's our struggle for identity that leaves us all unknown

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35 posted 08-22-2002 02:28 PM       View Profile for Moon Dust   Edit/Delete Message      Find Poems  View IP for Moon Dust

I'd have to say that I think love feels the same for us all. It will be similar but I've loved more than one person and the feelings have been different.

If your afraid of the dark, then why did you come?

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