Annoying Ex-boyfriends... ACK!

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Allysa

Senior Member

since 1999-11-09

Posts 1952
In an upside-down garden

0 posted 2002-07-13 12:59 PM

I doubt many of you know who I am, but those who do might *fondly* remember my ex-boyfriend, the one, the only, Justin.

Yeah, okay.  He called me on a Monday a few weeks ago and the previous day, apparently he had called me to see if I could go to a festival with him but I wasn't home.  He asked "where were you?" and I replied "I went to church with Cody."  and he kept on asking me where I was on specific dates and since I spend the majority of my time with Cody, I just replied that I was hanging out with friends and he asked "which friends?" and I replied "Cody" because I want to be truthful with everyone.  So, Justin got all funny and said "I want to meet this guy so I can shake his hand and tell him how lucky he is for getting such a wonderful girl and how lucky he must be to be such a wonderful person and be able to make you happy" and everytime he would ask me where I'd been and I'd reply "with Cody" he'd say the same thing over and over and over again.

Now, I have for a long time been able to realize that communicating with Justin in any means is in fact rather bad for my health.  He's hit me a few times (god that sounds worse than it is) and he's done a few other things and he verbally abuses me a lot.  I can't necessarily say my opinion of him around here, but that's all right.  I'm fed up with him and the stuff he pulls and I know it's bad for me to be hanging around him.  I told him a few weeks ago to not call me anymore and that I didn't want to talk to him.  So he had his cousin, who is a really close friend of mine, call me and try and get me to go over to my old neighborhood (where Justin lives) and bring Cody with me.  I really didn't think that was such a good idea because Cody hates Justin and Justin hates Cody and they've never met. So I didn't go over there.  Justin talked trash about me and Cody the entire time I was on the phone with his cousin and I am so sick and tired of him.  He beats people up, doesn't care about getting in trouble or anything, and I'm scared that he's going to do something.  I don't think he'll do anything to me, but I don't know what he'll do to my friends or, for that matter, Cody.

Thanks, I just needed to get that all out of my head.

Elizabeth

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since 1999-06-07

Posts 6871
Minnesota

1 posted 2002-07-14 06:27 PM

Allysa, there may very well be grounds for a restraning order here. You realize that it's bad for you to have any contact with him and you've told him so, yet he still calls and talks about wanting to get together? That sounds really bad. I know you just wanted to vent and I'll always listen, even though you and I don't know each other very well, but if you can't take things anymore or won't be able to in the future, think about getting one. Good luck!

God bless America, my home sweet home.

Bec
Member

since 2001-02-23

Posts 475
Canberra

2 posted 2002-07-15 09:34 AM

You don't have to put up with this. You've made it perfectly clear that you don't want him to contact you any more, and he is not respecting your wishes. I agree with Elizabeth. Even if you decide not to go with it, it's worth knowing that the option of a restraining order is there if you need it.

Good luck.

Bec

"Poetry and Hums aren't things which you get, they're things which get you. And all you can do is to go where they can find you."
-Winnie-the-Pooh

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