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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy 
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Yeah, I know .. We can't live with them and can't live without them, right? lol Well I need some advice about a guy I really like. Ok we'll call him "Josh". um, Ok I wuz with Josh friday night and all saturday night, saturday we all went out on this country road out in bfe and built a bon fire and everything, b/c this road only went so far until you couldn't follow it anymore. Well he grabbed my hand and was like lets go take a walk, and so I went with him and wuz walkin then we stopped and he put his arms around me and wuz like you know I really like you, and I got this huge smile on my face, b/c a couple weeks before he told his friend i wuz to young b/c i'm 17 and he's 21, it's only 4 years right? well i've liked him for a long time, since the first time i met him. Which was about 4 or 5 months ago, when me and some friends were all out crusin'. Anyways, he finally kissed me you know? It was like I was in a dream because I didn't think in a million years he'd ever kiss me. And then like around 5:30am we decided to go on back into town to this guy we'll call "Kevin's" house, and when we got there me and him were alone outside and he kinda hesitated and went and sat on a chair beside me instead of sittin beside me in a glider, right? and when i was leaving he didn't kiss me goodbye or anything but i talked to his friend "Kevin" and he's like he talks about you all the time and says your hot and really likes you and thinks your nice and all this and that .. but when we were alone he kept kissing me and makin out with me and holding me and everything else but when were around people he's not as lovey i guess you could call it. but he did give me a hug goodbye and stuff ... and he's coming to my party saturday but he confuses me. Does he just want some or does he really like me? if you need more info to base it on just tell me and i'll go into more detail for ya. but please gimme your opinion on this, I just don't wanna get hurt. Alexia ¤Smile, because you never know who'z in love with it¤ |
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Poet deVine
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-26
Posts 22612Hurricane Alley |
There are a lot of people, me included, that don't like public displays of affection. Maybe he's uncomfortable? And maybe he's just using you? Sorry to be so blunt, but there are guys out there that, if they get what they want in private, they don't want anyone in public to know. |
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Magnus
since 2001-10-10
Posts 14135South Carolina, USA |
I agree with PoetD... I was always one to not be very affectionate around others...VERY SHY....but alone with someone I cared about...that was a different thing... I am much older now than I was then...and I still have difficulty being very affectionate in public...But at my age...I don't think it is too uncommon to be less affectionate in public... Either way, one thing you will find is this. Men are very different from women...always will be...even in the best of relationships, there are moments that can grate on each other's nerves.... Learning to adapt....and to communicate feelings are very important parts of a relationship....Takes work and learning that NO ONE has all the answers... Good Luck.. |
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Irie Senior Member
since 1999-12-01
Posts 1493Washington State |
Have you asked him why he does this or expressed your feelings about it to him? Maybe he is a bit worried about the age difference, even though it's only 4 years, he might worry about what other people think? The only way to know for sure is to ask. I hope you get your answers. ~Sheri |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
MEN? Now HERE'S a subject I can sink my teeth into! (just kidding, guys...er, or is she?) I have this really unique approach to men. I sort of treat 'em the same way I treat WOMEN. Which means...If I have an issue, I ASK. Just be upfront about it all. Be honest and accept nothing but honesty in return. I promise you, it can save you BOTH years of grief. Hugs, Alex.  |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
Thanks for the advice, I haven't talked to him since last saturday. Excuses: He is in college and doesn't get home till 10pm ... work ect.But um him and his friend was suppose to come up today and visit us but then my friend went and told this guy she'd go on a date with him, and my sister and that guyz friend. So there like forget Alexia yuh know .. she doesn't need to see him, she might be crying or depressed or had the worst time at her own party. And I had a little to many drinks last night, and i just went and sat in the middle of my hill by myself and was crying b/c something always happens so I can never get what I want, I'm the one with the bad luck ... Never fails. And just Friday I met another guy (b/c Josh never called) and my sister was like let me have him you've got Josh, but you know I don't have Josh and I probably never will b/c he hasn't called and he is always gone. I've got the worst luck with guys and I don't know what i'm doing wrong. It's like everyone is against me to be happy with someone.I swear they are. later Lexi ¤Smile, because you never know who'z in love with it¤ |
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JP Senior Member
since 1999-05-25
Posts 1343Loomis, CA |
All men suck. They are scum and you can't trust them for anything. Worthless pieces of feces, all of them... Yesterday is ash, tomorrow is smoke; only today does the fire burn. |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
JP? There are a few men, who, in my experience? DO NOT SUCK. funny tho, I can't seem to remember their names...  |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
LOL! that was great .. I want Josh! He's so confusing, last saturday he's all telling me, that he likes me then he doesn't even bother calling me this weekend. It's so screwed up lemme tell you. He knows I really like him, and I know he really likes me. what the hell is he waiting on Christmas? ugh! MEN I swear! Lexi ¤Smile, because you never know who'z in love with it¤ |
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Moon Dust
since 1999-06-11
Posts 2177Skelmersdale, UK |
Woah fraid thats what men are like u never know where their at. If u want to know u stand ask him ring him. Then its up to u what u do. I'm wise enough now not to let cool get to me. |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
ok here's the deal, I talked to him wedensday, he came to see me! We were all chillin in my drive way and we talked about that, he said he wasnt ready for a relationship yet b/c he has college all week till 10:30 yuh know, he only gets to do stuff on the weekends if he's lucky. Anyways, he's like I really like you, and then he went on and was like your so sexy you have pretty eye's a pretty face, and all this and that. And then he held me in his arms all night. Then Friday I called him, b/c thursday we both had family things to go to. but um, friday i talked to him and he had a baseball game but he skipped it for me and came to see me. and then he said they were leaving and i gave him this sad look, and he like put his hand up to my face and was like i'm sorry sweetie, i have things to do tomorrow .. . but he stayed. then he said they were leaving and we left then i guess his friend got out to pee and then went into the bars, so he waited for a few minutes and he came out talkin to some chicks, and my sis seen josh and him talkin to them but they said josh was walking away to his truck right well they came back to get me and i was standing with this hot guy stephen and my cousin josh lol. and i started crying b/c they upset me bad .. and we went over there and my friend went after him and was like you don't treat my girl like that, he was like i wasn't talkin to them (which he wasn't) and i was standng in a parking lot across the street and he came over there, took me in his arms and was like i wasn't talkin to those nasty girls, lol and he just held me and kissed me and was like i wouldn't do that to you ... and all that. Then last night(saturday) .. we all went there and i had been drinkin and you know how it depresses you, well i once again was crying b/c me and josh were suppose to do something and we didn't get to then i seen him where i was at the bars with this girl and 2 of his friends .. which i know them all and josh was talkin to my sis and was like she thinks im with her doesn't she, he's like its not like that i like your sister not her .. and blah blah blah .. then we were leavin' .. and josh gave me and hug goodbye and he acted like he didn't wanna let me go .. but then a whole bunch of stuff blew up with his one friend b/c no one likes him b/c he did my sister wrong and there was gonna be a fight and stuff and i was ballin then he pulled up and was yellin let me outta the car, let me outta the car! and he came runnin towards me and his STUPID friend was like leave the girl alone, let her cry ... and josh was the one person i wanted to talk to but then when he left for good he hesitated but he didn't give me a hug goodbye .. i was so upset .. and i'm afraid i won't get to see him again b/c my other friends don't like his friend donny cuz of stuff that happened ... long story but i know josh wants me i just miss him so much .. well thats what happened lexi |
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Dulcinea Senior Member
since 2001-07-22
Posts 774IN |
Lexi, your only 17. Josh does like you! Very much! He just needs time to get to know you and what he wants too. Just enjoy your time together, don't fret, and don't get anxious, you have the rest of your life for that! *LOL* Get to know each other. Get to be friends first, take it slow and RELAX! All good things come to those who wait...and it is so true! Best of luck to you! |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
yeah, I am waiting, but my friend robby was like Megan don't wait around for him he's player, I know cuz I use to be one, isn't there a saying to that .. Once a player always a player? yeah thats what i thought. lol But robby is like my best guy friend, he's going out with my best friend .. and he's like if he's going to make you cry like that, he isn't worth your time? But how can you just give up on a guy when you really like him and are falling for him? He just wants to get to know me better .. we've only been talking for like a week or two maybe 3 weeks .. I dunno .. I'm so confused, I really think i'm falling for josh I just don't know what to do. It just hurts people telling you not to talk to him anymore .. And he's always tellin me how much he likes me then he tells me i'm sexy, it's just the little things he does. I love the way he looks at me when he wants to kiss me, or how he takes me by the hands and puts my arms around him .. and how he walks up behind me and puts his arms around me .. The way he kisses me .. just everything .. the way he plays with my hair .. or just how he looks into my eyes and is like your so sexy. I'm so happy when i'm with him, like i'm a different perosn, a happier person. I always have a smile on my face when i'm with him .. and he does too .. I know he is because when were together he is always smiling. And like, I really like her telling like my sister and my friends. then he grabs me and is like i really like you .. he's just so sweet .. I'm just afraid i'll never talk to him again b/c of what happened Saturday. It's so unfair. Lexi love sucks [This message has been edited by Alexia (07-08-2002 11:28 PM).] |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
Thank you guys so much, I dont know what I'd do without you all. I just about did something i know i would've regret tomorrow and what i did do, i'll still probably regret tomorrow but thats ok. It would've affected me for the rest of my life. You know? Anyways, I'm not worried about Josh right now, I've had more than once person tell me to wait it out, and this guy just told me that, He has been secertly in love with me .. Isn't that a great feeling, expecially since, you like him too? I thought it was awesome that he came out and told me. It's just he lives in Washington State. And it's just that Josh lives close to me, and that guy I was with today lives close to me. Well till saturday he lives about two houses up from me. Im going back in an hour .. who knows maybe we'll finish what we started ... lol Well Thank you all so much .. I'll still keep you all posted on what happens or whatever .. so you know and I won't leave you hanging .. So lets keep this post up Have any of you been in this situation? If so tell me what you did .. Please! Lexi love sucks |
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Dulcinea Senior Member
since 2001-07-22
Posts 774IN |
Many, many moons ago! Those teen years are just war on your nerves for sure! Patience, I know is not a practiced virtue during those times, but I have (looonggggg)since discovered that when something is meant to be, it will be and all my fretting and worry was for naught. Everything works for the best if we just learn to relax, flow with life and let the good happen. Follow your conscience and if something doesn't feel right, back away. That is the best advice I can give you this side of the raging battle dear, so take your time and proceed with caution. *G* Soon you will be in your 20's and things WILL settle down. You will have discovered what it is you really want and be much more content with yourself and the world around you. By the time you reach my age, you will look back and chuckle at all the things you spent so much energy on. I will be praying for you. |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
yeah, me and Josh are pretty much done and over with I think, to many people got between us. And I cryed and cryed but now, I have to move on I guess ... It kinda of sucks that I can't be with him but I guess you live and learn thats what life is all about. I was in love with him, although I never told anyone, not even him. I kept it to myself all these months and now that were done and over with ... I'm still gonna keep it to myself, well you all know it now but thats kind of different then telling people I actually know.But now My sister and my best friend and the rest of my friends are settled down with there boyfriends and i'm single again ... It's like i'm all alone. I hate this feeling, the other day I was about ready to just end everything, but then I actually sat in my room and thought about it and realized that was not what I wanted to do right now, especially since i'm only 17. I have other men, and I think I ruined something that could have been good, I met this really hot,nice sweet guy when me and josh were together and I told him I kinda had a boyfriend and that same weekend me and josh pretty much ended. So now .. I wanna go track that guy down, I know where he lives! oh yeah, last week. I did some stuff I thought i'd regret this week with this guy, but you know something .. I don't regret what I did at all. I was surprised to see myself not regretting it too. Thats always a good thing though. =) Anywho, I just don't know what to do anymore .. It's like nothing ever good comes to me... Everything and anything bad happens to ME! and me only .. It sucks. Well if u have any advice for me, please I need it .. Something! It's just I don't know what to do anymore but do things that aren't good for me. I swear i do more and more things that i shouldn't everyday. Oh well though. love sucks |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
ok, so this is what happened tonight .. Sorry I have to tell someone, my friends don't listen to a thing i say, so I know i can count on you all to listen to what i have to say. Well anyways, Josh's friend called my cell phone like last friday, and i didn't answer it b/c i was in my pool or something and I wasn't about to call him back b/c I was mad at him. Well today i was thinking maybe i should call him back to see what he wanted. Well I did, I called him, when I KNEW Josh was gonna be there and was like what did you want? He's like ugh, I called? I'm like yeah you did. He's like oh yeah .. I was gonna come to p-town, (thats where we all chill at, and everyone goes cursin' there and everything)Well, I never called him back that night and there was suppose ot be a fight between him and my best friends boyfriend b/c he causes a bunch of trouble the weekend before last. But since I never called him back so he didn't go down town. I SHOULD HAVE CALLED HIM BACK! oh well. But the thing is, I got this huge smile on my face b/c I heard Josh talking in the back ground. I haven't heard that in like two weeks. So hopefully i'll see him this weekend, I'll get them all to come down... But one thing Josh's friend said me was ... What's between me and your sister and your friend is between us, not between me and you. And I don't and won't EVER like him as a boyfriend b/c just no .. thats wrong. Im in love with his best friend and I don't want him. lol I didn't get to talk to josh though ... you'll have that I guess. I'm still gonna move on and just be friends with them all, I realized I don't think I really want to get involved with any of them. So hopefully things will get better with time. so peace lexi *Love might not make the world go round but it's what makes the ride worth while* |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
Well, things change Josh and his friend Kevin aren't friends with that other guy that caused all the trouble anymore! Thank god! And So me and my best friend were going to a fair tonight and called up "Kevin" and so now were not going to the "fair" were going to kevin's and Josh is gonna be there!!!!! I'm so excited I finally get to see him. It's great .. I'll tell you what happens so peace Lexi *Love might not make the world go round but it's what makes the ride worth while* |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
LIFE IS SO UNFAIR!  *Love might not make the world go round but it's what makes the ride worth while* |
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paladin
since 2001-08-05
Posts 930Pensacola,Fl. |
Define fair.Give three examples. paladin |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
getting to see the love of your life? That takes up all three examples. thats ok though, I've come to a conclusion I hate all men. They are all the same, lie,cheat .. drop u like a bad habit, or just plain and simple use you. My boyfriend now, things aren't going so smoothly. Because his ex girlfriend lives right across the street from him and walks to his house it's like right there .. and she's ALWAYS at his house, she's like abessed with him. And last night I was at his house and of course she was there but the thing is .. I dont think his family is over them being split up and he isn't over her yet either. Because he interdused me to his mom and she didn't really say anything to me. I'm an easy person to get along with. And I told his ex how it was and I told him how it was gonna be. But I don't know if it's gonna work out ... and he's like i'm falling in love with you... What are you suppose to say if u don't feel the same way? lol I felt bad cause i didn't say it back yuh know? oh well I guess ... I just don't know what to do in this situation. It's all messed up .. any advice please help me .. *Love might not make the world go round but it's what makes the ride worth while* |
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Alicia Member
since 2002-03-22
Posts 279 |
~Ok so,...you may not like this. My advice, (and I'm being entirely sincere),...is to take these last few weeks of summer and forget ALLLL about boys/guys/men for a while. There are so many other things you could/can be doing. -Enjoy yourself-. Ride a bike, swim in a lake, write or read a book, volunteer, paint, sing, go for a walk, learn something new, visit a museum, etc. And I know this is easier said. Take this in kindness though really, I'm not dismissing your 'issue'. Hope you find happiness either way. *Peace. |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
yeah, i need a vacation! I'm going on a cruise with my parents in september so yuh know. And I actually have thought about doing that before you even said anything, so i think thats what i am going to do! And I'm completely changing. I'm going to dye my hair, get a new worerobe and everything .. so it be a completely new Alexia! But Im just dyin' my hair from dark brown to light brown ... so not a big change just something new ... peace lexi *Love might not make the world go round but it's what makes the ride worth while* |
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Sudhir Iyer Member Ascendant
since 2000-04-26
Posts 6943Mumbai, India : now in Belgium |
sorry about what you are going thorugh... but "thats ok though, I've come to a conclusion I hate all men. They are all the same, lie,cheat .. drop u like a bad habit, or just plain and simple use you. " I think you are being extremely biased like many others... but then I think with time, you shall grow up to realise that there are good apples in the basket too. I think you need to learn to look outside from inside and then look inside from outside and be honest to yourself. Frankly, I am only in my learning matters as far as that goes... so I shall "zip my preaching" Good Luck. Regards, Sudhir |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
I'm trying, I really am. It's just that every guy I end up going out with is a bad apple. I dont know what i'm doing wrong .. I've tryed judging, by there looks and the inside it still didn't work. I'm a picky person about my men ... It still doesn't help Lexi *Love might not make the world go round but it's what makes the ride worth while* |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
Ok, Once again I get cheated on and lied to! I'm fed up with it! But you know what this last week of my summer, I'm going to be single and have my fun and party all weekend long! lol Welp later Lexi *Love might not make the world go round but it's what makes the ride worth while* |
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MidnightSon Member
since 2002-05-15
Posts 312between the gutter & the stars |
perhaps don't try so hard. let them come to you. or one could always try therapy. we all need some. god knows i do.seriously, don't get bogged down in all this drama. unless you really dig burying yourself and then digging your way out again, just relax and let it go. it's not a big deal til ya make it one. and btw. this josh character. IMO anyone that constantly plays with your hair and only uses the word sexy and won't do things in public....well it's obvious what's on his mind. especially if he's the one in college. ya know? gl it's our struggle for identity that leaves us all unknown |
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Alexia
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
Yeah Josh was worried about the age thing, cuz he's 21 and i'm 17. So yuh know, and I haven't talked to him for about 2 months. And i'm done with men .. I dont chase after them they all come to me .. But Then I just end up making all the wrong decisions when I decide to go out with them. But I have this guy now, he calls me every night and everything and he asked me out and I told him I wasn't ready for a relationship right now but then he's always like are you goin out tonight, where u goin? Like were goin out or somethin'. I told him I DIDNT want a relationship right now .. I just wanna go chill with my friends and meet new guys yuh know? I've had a boyfriend all summer ... I just wanna be single for a bit. Exspecially since I just went threw a bunch of bull plus he's 25 and i'm 17. I'm not to big on that idea. 25 is just a little bit to old. And I just don't know how to tell him that, because he's a really nice guy. Any advice? Peace Alexia *Love might not make the world go round but it's what makes the ride worth while* |
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MidnightSon Member
since 2002-05-15
Posts 312between the gutter & the stars |
tell him to slow it down, remind him he's neither your boy-toy nor your pappy, and that's that. if he's really starting to bug ya and he keeps calling and giving you the third like he's your dad, start hanging up on him. he'll get the idea. on a side note- where are you meeting all these 20-somethings sweetie? i mean, it may seem cool for you, but imagine what kind of a loser they must be in their circle of friends to have to go pick up high school chicks. are you gonna date 17 year olds when you're 25? me neither. cool it down, nah mean? btw, for curiosities sake, what college do these guys go to? does it have the word "community" or "junior" in it? no offense to you or anything, but you can find better. and good for you on the single thing. that josh guy didn't sound like the brightest bulb on the chandelier. it's our struggle for identity that leaves us all unknown |
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