yeah, what they said.
gloom and doom? pshaw. (pshaw, i say.)
sharing the pain can sometimes make the load a bit lighter - and if that little bit can save a good person from breaking, we've done a good deed, indeed.
you happen to be a good person. (my opinion, but i think shared by most.)
losing a child is such a terrible thing that it cannot be expressed; and it's precisely at a time like this when your friends, if they are in fact friends, will step forward to help you carry a bit of the burden.
you're blessed: you've had a whole STACK of friends show up out of the woodwork to help in any way they can.
gloom and doom? hardly. rather you've given us all, by allowing us to share your pain and help, even if only a little, an opportunity to return the friendship that you offer so freely to everyone in the blue pages.
i won't offer truisms or cliches; i won't presume to guess how you must be feeling. what i will say is that i personally feel honored that you have allowed us to share this burden with you, and volunteer the fact that my load-bearing capacity is pretty high. lay it on, man, we're here for you.