I'll fill you in, here. Some you may know that in late July, My fiance and I both lost our fathers within two weeks of each other. Needless to say, it was a blinding blow, and we are struggling to put on a brave face for our children through this holiday season. Yesterday we received a Christmas Card in the mail. Enclosed were pictures from his father's wake, including several of his dad in the casket. The person who sent them was indeed a family member who flew in for the services. I vaguely recall her asking permission to take pictures then, her reasoning being, that she seldom sees the family and friends all together. I told her that I thought it would be okay, as long as she was discreet. It was my understanding that she would take photos of family. The pictures of "Dad" came as quite a shock. I'm just relieved that we got the mail before the kids did, as we allow them to open cards addressed to the family. I'm trying hard to understand why anyone would want such a thing for themselves, much less "share" them with someone still obviously devastated by grief. She is normally a kind soul, so I'm confused as to what to say to her. I probably won't even mention it, but I'm still confused. Is this some sort of new custom that I'm unaware of? I found it insensitive and distasteful, and we are still smarting from that and everytime we even see the envelope with the pics in it, it's like a punch in the stomach. What, if anything, do I say to her? And there is the question of what to do with the photos...my boyfriend can't look at them but still can't bring himself to throw them away...