Dear Blaec. I'm so sorry for the heart ache. I know how torn you are. My father was in the Navy for 20 years. Never saw a battle. But when I married a man in the Army in 1988, two years later, Desert Storm arose. We don't know when or where or why sometimes. I can only tell you the saying "It is War on the homefront too" is true.
Your emotions will reel, I know, during this situation. The best thing you can do to support your Hubby is take care of yourself so you will be able to greet him with open arms when he returns. For his decision is a grand decision. You are the woman that he very much looks forward to coming home to. Your image is everything he sees when he tries to cope in bravery. His love, his home.
Draw near everyone in your situation. You will need all the shoulders and support. You may even find that others will need you for they may be worse off emotionally and mentally. Just know that there are many out here and around you that will do everything we can to comfort your fears and support you and all those that will go forward in bravery. We fear so much....I know they do too. For they are not the machines everyone thinks they are.
Much Love and hugs your way, and if you ever need to talk or write. We'll be here to listen and read. God Bless you and protect you all.