Ok, I may be back later to add to this, I have to leave but I had to respond to this.
there is NO excuse for throwing someone's poems in the trash, none at all, that was unforgivable. Having said that, please think about this.
Yes, this has happened to me. There's a reason for it. I'm guilty of it, or have been. No more. My well being no longer depends on someone approving or going ga ga over something I've written. Why? Please let me try to explain.
A poem, once it's written cannot be, let me repeat, cannot and should not be a real living part of you any longer. IT's not part of your nervous system, put it down on paper, let it breathe, it lives sure but it is a poem not YOU.
Don't write for approval.
Don't write for attention.
Don't write for anything but the pure love of writing and if that is not what you're writing for, dear, then think about it please.
I sing in the shower. You would hate hearing it but that doesn't stop me from singing!
As long as you write expecting affirmation and please nothing wrong with that, we all want and need that, it's great ok? But as long as you write FOR that and NEED that you're going to at times, be miserable.
IT's not worth it. That's not what poetry is about. Poetry is about expression.
In the final anaylsis, YOU are the only crit who matters. Please think about what I've told you. This was learned from personal experience.
"Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently."
[This message has been edited by Irish Rose (edited 10-11-2001).]