There's a good side too you know, you'll have more time to spent on the things you never had time for before.
My two girls left about ten years ago, together, the youngest being only 16 years.
That one we see only two times a year, in summer and at X-mas for she's a softballplayer, captain of the National Dutch team, so all her weekends are filled.
It doesn't matter to me as long as I know she's allright and there's always the phone.
I'm with Nan, they've grown to adults, and letting them go free doing their own things has brought us closer in a way.
My eldest daughters mother in law is really demanding them to come over and sit all afternoon or evening, result: they don't like to go there so often. As for us, well there has been weekends I just saw her a half hour at coming and leaving, in between she was visiting friends, going out etc. I never thought much of it, but the result: they love to come over, 'because she feels free' she said. And I think that's a very important feeling.
Mind you, I'm not saying your feelings are wrong or something, for you have the right to feel what you feel, no question about that, I do understand your sadness. I just wanted you to know how I coped with kids leaving home.
My experience is that when you're able to let them feel truly free in coming and going, they'll come home because they want to, not because they feel they need to and you just wait, they'll bring all their friends with them too
A rose is a rose is a rose...I guess...
Feel free to use the pictures on my website. http://communities.msn.com/Titiasplace/
[This message has been edited by Titia Geertman (edited 08-01-2001).]